So my fiancee and I got engaged recently (YAY!!) and we also recently repaired a really bad situation with his mother. Now that we are engaged my future MIL has attacked my character, my upbringing, my education, basically said that I am the slime of the earth. Now mind you, iI swallowed a lot of pride and forgave a lot of really mean things she said about me to make things good, and I don't really know if I have it in me to do it again. (Added Insult: She is Haitian and will speak kreol about me in front of me--I am white-- just to be rude)
So there is sticky situaiton #1... #2 is His sister has been spreading rumors like we are pregnant and I am trying to keep him away from his family and so we took a breather from things with her. We are trying to get a picture of what our party will look like, and we really want his nephew (mean sisters son) to be our ring "security" (bearer). We called up and asked her. She said yes, but she also invited herself to be a bridesmaid. I already have 2 MOH and 3 bridesmaids, and I really don't want her in my party. But.... a part of me wants to try to use this as an opportunity to mend things and let her in... I don't know what to do, because I don't want any drama. I was thinking about coming up with something else for her to do in the wedding that would make her feel included, but not be in my party, but I don't know what that would be....
AHHH!!! Opinions Welcome!!