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  • Brooke, this is Mel. Not sure if you've seen her since you've been busy lately, but we (I) love Mel. And not only because she says I have a lovely face.
  • Hi Mel!  I've been MIA for the last couple of months.  Always glad to meet people with common sense :)
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_advice-broken-hearted-bride-long-apologies?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:509d4bf8-eab7-450c-9982-74d6eaed1f49Post:833a046f-3d26-4310-9586-578e4416afaa">Re: Advice for a broken-hearted bride? (Long, apologies)</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Advice for a broken-hearted bride? (Long, apologies) : Nobody is going to help you build your castle if you keep kicking sand in their face.  This is pretty basic stuff here. 
    Posted by The Mel and Todd Show[/QUOTE]

    You know, some people actually did respond helpfully.  Others just jumped all over my case and made assumptions. 
  • "She's not well off" or "She's struggling financially" would have sufficed.  And ditto Brooke - I had a roommate whose parents were immigrants.  Her parents and other relatives who had immigrated were loaded.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_advice-broken-hearted-bride-long-apologies?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:509d4bf8-eab7-450c-9982-74d6eaed1f49Post:fdcf2b4c-1d6d-4d62-a39b-1b3858a35523">Re: Advice for a broken-hearted bride? (Long, apologies)</a>:
    [QUOTE]Brooke, this is Mel. Not sure if you've seen her since you've been busy lately, but we (I) love Mel. And not only because she says I have a lovely face.
    Posted by emilyinchile[/QUOTE]

    <div>I really like Mel too - nice pic!  </div>
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  • [QUOTE]Brooke, this is Mel. Not sure if you've seen her since you've been busy lately, but we (I) love Mel. And not only because she says I have a lovely face.
    Posted by emilyinchile[/QUOTE]
    I've been around less lately, but from what I've seen I'm also fond of Mel.
  • Does anyone else want to take a crack at me before I delete this thread?  Going once...
  • Okay, as an impartial observer who hasn't been sucked into this yet, OP, you're coming off as a giant steaming pile of crazy. 

    You're not doing anyone, least of all yourself, any good by continuing to camp out and respond to every.single.post, especially while you're still all upset and worked up.

    Turn the computer off.  Put on a silly movie that has nothing to do with weddings.  Make yourself a good, strong drink.  Enjoy some quality time with your FI.  Get some sleep.

    Then come back and chat tomorrow when you have a clearer head.
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  • You know, that's what makes it funny.  Everyone jumped all over my case about including the email but everyone also made sure to quote what I wrote.   Kind of takes the point out of going back and editing the original post, as so many urged me to do.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_advice-broken-hearted-bride-long-apologies?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:509d4bf8-eab7-450c-9982-74d6eaed1f49Post:8450d347-ebb3-47d2-84a8-a9f9462e7b2e">Re: Advice for a broken-hearted bride? (Long, apologies)</a>:
    [QUOTE]You know, that's what makes it funny.  Everyone jumped all over my case about including the email but everyone also made sure to quote what I wrote.   Kind of takes the point out of going back and editing the original post, as so many urged me to do.
    Posted by [email protected][/QUOTE]

    <div>man now your friend might find it and see what a B you were being today.  sucks for you.</div>
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  • Now now, we don't name call on this board.

  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_advice-broken-hearted-bride-long-apologies?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:509d4bf8-eab7-450c-9982-74d6eaed1f49Post:192401af-a717-4a67-86b9-29508250ecde">Re: Advice for a broken-hearted bride? (Long, apologies)</a>:
    [QUOTE]Does anyone else want to take a crack at me before I delete this thread?  Going once...
    Posted by [email protected][/QUOTE]

    Actually, since you're not using this thread anyway, I'm going to go ahead and make it about me. 

    Thanks, everyone.  I like you ladies, too.  <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-embarassed.gif" border="0" alt="Embarassed" title="Embarassed" /> <---I'm blushy from the Mel love, see? 
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_advice-broken-hearted-bride-long-apologies?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:509d4bf8-eab7-450c-9982-74d6eaed1f49Post:f9639948-7b32-45d8-b4a6-30904e3bcfcc">Re: Advice for a broken-hearted bride? (Long, apologies)</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Advice for a broken-hearted bride? (Long, apologies) : Actually, since you're not using this thread anyway, I'm going to go ahead and make it about me.  Thanks, everyone.  I like you ladies, too.   <---I'm blushy from the Mel love, see? 
    Posted by The Mel and Todd Show[/QUOTE]

    Please do.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_advice-broken-hearted-bride-long-apologies?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:509d4bf8-eab7-450c-9982-74d6eaed1f49Post:f9639948-7b32-45d8-b4a6-30904e3bcfcc">Re: Advice for a broken-hearted bride? (Long, apologies)</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Advice for a broken-hearted bride? (Long, apologies) : Actually, since you're not using this thread anyway, I'm going to go ahead and make it about me.  Thanks, everyone.  I like you ladies, too.   <---I'm blushy from the Mel love, see? 
    Posted by The Mel and Todd Show[/QUOTE]
    Alrighty then!  Your sig pic is so cute. 
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_advice-broken-hearted-bride-long-apologies?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:509d4bf8-eab7-450c-9982-74d6eaed1f49Post:7b1179ff-be63-42df-964c-5e543fecfbcc">Re: Advice for a broken-hearted bride? (Long, apologies)</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Advice for a broken-hearted bride? (Long, apologies) : Alrighty then!  Your sig pic is so cute. 
    Posted by JoyTate1[/QUOTE]

    Pshaw, thanks.  That's my giant baby.  He's going to be a lumberjack.  Fun baby fact: they can be taught to give you their paw in exchange for treats.  My 8 year old son figured this out this weekend.  And here I thought you were only supposed to experiment on the first born.  Shows what I know. 

    Now I've hijacked a thread, aw'd about my kids, and am bringing it around to obnoxious heights by making it a post and run...if I get away with this, I believe that means you've made me part of the tribe. 
  • Jumping on the "I <3 The Mel Show" bandwagon.  Your posts are often hilarious and lots of fun to read.  Welcome to the WPB. 
    "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146
  • Guys,  ease up on the name calling.

    Nicole, use any name calling word again, and I'll have to ban you.

    I think PPs have hit on a lot.

    1) How you intended things to come across didn't work.  You may have had noble intentions but they backfired.  It happens all the time but take responsibility that what you wanted to do and what happened were not great.

    2) People can only give advice based on what you wrote.  And if a group of people who haven't met you are saying the same thing, I think you need to listen to it.

    3) It sounds like your friend is going to go with the BF regardless of what is happening in her life.  And while that sucks, you need to accept that this is how she is.  You're also right - dealing with the BF is a different post.

    4) Talk to your friend and see if you can help her get to the wedding. 

    And before you come back, I really recommend a glass of wine or at least a walk around the block.  You seem genuinely stressed but I'll have to ban you with the way you have responded to others if it keeps up.
  • I don't have anything to add in the way of advice (as this thread went really nutty really quick, and it seems like the OP has been given sound advice), but I also want to drop in and say The Mel Show is currently my favorite show on The Knot.

    And I'm not just saying that because I want an autograph...
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  • edited May 2010
    Thank you Mel, for saying what you said. The following statements were my absolute favorites.


    Wow.  I feel really bad for your friend right now, and was pleased to see that you conceded to the fact that you need to take a step back from being the bride to being her friend.

    ...dude...wtf?  I've seen you be chill on other boards.  I think we shared a moment once last week.  Wtf?  You're imploding.  It's not cool to get all angsty on people who are only responding based upon the information with which you provided them (twatface?  Really?  Emily's face is lovely.  LOVELY).  You're having a bad day.  I get it.  It would be best to scale back on the face/vagina references.

    Lurker or not, nobody here knows you by anything other than the 60+ posts on your profile...you just committed the internet equivalent of showing up at a stranger's party, breaking a lamp, and slapping their sister. 



    OP: Bride-dom lasts for a day. Friendship is a bit more long-lasting, and WAY more worthy of your energy and attention. Your friend needs your support and help, not your wedding drama. Talk to her and see what will work best for her, and what you can do.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_advice-broken-hearted-bride-long-apologies?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:509d4bf8-eab7-450c-9982-74d6eaed1f49Post:7a9a83a2-d116-416f-b59d-6cae7ec12e33">Re: Advice for a broken-hearted bride? (Long, apologies)</a>:
    [QUOTE]Ban me.  I could not care less.
    Posted by [email protected][/QUOTE]

    I'm sorry OP, but that attitude is less-than-becoming. You seem really high-strung about all of this, as though no one could ever say anything in response to your original post to make you happy. People are responding from an outsider's perspective and have the advantage of not being bogged down by the drama you find yourself in, and thus, can give you clear and straightforward advice.

    I hope you are taking the advice of PP and relaxing before responding anymore. And along with that, I hope this situation ends well for you, no matter how unbecoming your responses to other posters were.
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  • I just have 2 things.  First, I haven't seen Mel around much, but after that post I officially love her.  Second, people who get butt-hurt over nothing are funny and we should laugh at them.
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    Stop The Drama!

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  • Momokubiak, is that you?

  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_advice-broken-hearted-bride-long-apologies?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:509d4bf8-eab7-450c-9982-74d6eaed1f49Post:0dfda4e0-7bdf-49db-9e25-a18e9f4882fa">Re: Advice for a broken-hearted bride? (Long, apologies)</a>:
    [QUOTE]Momokubiak, is that you?
    Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]

    Ahahaha yes. It has been so long since I've seen that name, I'm almost nostalgic for that type of crazy...but not quite.
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  • Oh wow. . . after reading this whole thing, I can't allow myself to "walk away" without commenting. Here's hoping I won't anger anyone Wink

    1) Mel, you are hysterical.

    2) OP, I understand where you're coming from, I know how upsetting things like this can be, and I know how certain things can be misunderstood. Should you have posted her e-mail? No, and I'm sure now you see how that would be upsetting to a friend, although I believe it may have been blown up a little much. Unfortunately, this is obviously a really difficult time for your friend, and it just so happened to coincide with your wedding. My suggestion, like many others, is to try to help her out as best you can, and just hope she'll be able to see you walk down the aisle. I'm sure she's just upset about possibly missing your wedding as you are.

    3) To everyone else, how about we all just excuse the bride moment (we all know we've had one, this one unfortunately just so happened to be visible to everyone), and understand that when most people feel attacked, whether it was intended to feel that way or not, they're going to defend themselves.

    This is a sticky situation, and I really hope it gets worked out!
  • I don't understand why flipping out over something minor is considered a "bride moment."  That's really insulting to brides everywhere.
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    Sometimes I feel like people think that brides are delicate little flower princesses who get all dressed up and pretty for one special moment of their dreams, when really they're just normal people who just happen to be getting married. Things shouldn't have to be sugar-coated for grown-ass women. -mstar284
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_advice-broken-hearted-bride-long-apologies?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:509d4bf8-eab7-450c-9982-74d6eaed1f49Post:7412e507-e77f-4775-a92a-6dbf7577f36f">Re: Advice for a broken-hearted bride? (Long, apologies)</a>:
    [QUOTE]Oh wow. . . after reading this whole thing, I can't allow myself to "walk away" without commenting. Here's hoping I won't anger anyone  1) Mel, you are hysterical. 2) OP, I understand where you're coming from, I know how upsetting things like this can be, and I know how certain things can be misunderstood. Should you have posted her e-mail? No, and I'm sure now you see how that would be upsetting to a friend, although I believe it may have been blown up a little much. Unfortunately, this is obviously a really difficult time for your friend, and it just so happened to coincide with your wedding. My suggestion, like many others, is to try to help her out as best you can, and just hope she'll be able to see you walk down the aisle. I'm sure she's just upset about possibly missing your wedding as you are. 3) <strong>To everyone else, how about we all just excuse the bride moment (we all know we've had one,</strong> this one unfortunately just so happened to be visible to everyone), and understand that when most people feel attacked, whether it was intended to feel that way or not, they're going to defend themselves. This is a sticky situation, and I really hope it gets worked out!
    Posted by jsbt2014[/QUOTE]


    Gee, I guess my DD and DIL were never really brides as they didn't have a "bride moment" where they were unkind or inconsiderate toward their friends.
    "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146
  • I thought this board was for adults only... Meaning, that the lady only asked for suggestions, not for you to judge her.  It is silly for a group of grown women to continually post to a message board to down each other, we are already going through enough trying to plan a wedding.  With that said, on to the advice:

    There are 2 sides that you should look at in this.  You have to be concerned for your friend, but she has to be concerned for you as well.  Your friend is clearly having some financial trouble, but the financial trouble didn't bite her in the butt last night, she has been broke since you've known her.  And being a college student myself, i know the financial hardships that someone can face.  The boyfriend is a scapegoat to avoid the uncomfortable "i don't have money" talk.

    However, this is something that she should have told you a long time ago.  It was inconsiderate of her to not atleast grace you with a phone call to let you know that she wasn't coming to any events.  There is a lack of communication between you two that i know all too well that will eventually end the friendship if you don't learn to express to each other.

    in the end, i think you should call her, force her to have that "sit down" talk with you and discuss what you have been feeling.  EVERYTHING from the lack of communication, to the boyfriend.  it all needs to come out.  if not, even if she does come to your wedding, one of you won't be at ease (if not both of you) for one reason or another.  do what you have to do to get your friend to your wedding (rent her a car for a weekend and let her stay with your mom).  There is your $200 solution.

    And all of you other chicks that are talking down to people on a MESSAGE BOARD... Do better.
  • kjb05j, I'm the MOD here.  I'll be the one to tell people when to chill out.

    You calling people out, particularly in your first post is not appropriate and out of line.

    And please refrain from calling grown women chicks.  Seriously??  Chicks??
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