I am planning a shower for my sister in NY. Half of our family lives on the West Coast and are Filipino. They unfortunately can't come to her shower in NY. I know she would love for them to be part of it so I am planning a small shower for her with those relatives when we visit for the holidays. My mother is concerned, however, because she said showers are not part of the culture in the Philippines. (My grandmother even got confused when my sister had an engagement party!) I want to do this for my sister, but also don't want to confuse or offend my very conservative maternal relatives. Does anyone have suggestions? There will be up to 20 people there. Thanks!