So as I've been planning it's been hard to share details with my mom (who lives in a different state). But she tends to turn things around to being about her, and what she would like. Which I do take into account b/c I love her. However, it's my folks 35 wedding anniversary the week of our wedding & we'll be CRAZY busy doing the walk through & cake tasting, & marriage lic, welcome bags, HOPEFULLY enjoying Hawaii at some point. Needless to say, she had mentioned a while ago about renewing their vows & how she'd like myself, fiance, my brother, his GF to be there. & wanted to use whom ever we're using to marry us, to perform their renewal. Which we haven't even locked in our ceremony yet. SO, I'm more worried about timing & even having time to celebrate in this manor, as it's Father's Day while we're there too. My fiance just feels that it's rude to steal the "spotlight" during their only daughters wedding. So I'm conflicted on how to handle this...I was thinking of getting them a nice card, write some great words, & getting them leis & taking both of our parents out on Father's Day. Then present my parent's their card b/c that's the date of their anniversary, but leave it at that. I would like to acknowledge both sets of parents at the wedding as they're both celebrating their 35th wedding anniversary's this year...which is AWESOME! Does that sound ok? & how do I politely mention that to my mother? Just say, "I made us reservations at xyz (any suggestions where to go June 19th? btw?) for our families. We want to celebrate Father's Day & your anniversary. I hope that's ok?" Does that sound reasonable. I just have a feeling based on her current reactions to certain wedding things that this could be an issue & it's giving me stomach aches just thinking about it.
Any advice would help!