I've been having some trouble with one of my bridesmaids & I'm at a loss for how to handle it. My future SIL has been a close friend for years & now she is my one of my bridesmaids. I always knew that we had different tastes but it was kind of refreshing to get a different opinion on things. FI & I are having what his family would consider a not so traditional wedding, we are skipping the hall, DJ, basic wedding that most of the family members have had & decided to have a BBQ style reception in his parents lake front backyard, a place that's special to our relationship. For months we've been planning things, & there has been some hesitation from his family about what we want, but for the most part they seem excited. The other day me & SIL spent over an hour discussing plans & after I left she complained about & criticized our plans to FI!!! I have always been open to her opinions, and sincerely want them. I'm really hurt & now I'm hesitant to even discuss things with her because how do I know if she's lying about liking things? I'm probably being silly & should just move on but I don't understand why she's acting like I'm so unreasonable & can't handle the truth. I know the first advice I'm going to get is to talk to her directly but now I'm worried that it's a family wide criticism & unhappiness over our plans & not just her?