DF and I have a 2 1/2 year old son together and have obviously been living together for several years. Plus we are getting married in Hawaii just the two of us and then coming back and having a nice reception 2 weekends after that for the friends and family. Both my aunt and sister think I should have a shower but I just can't decide if that's tacky considering the above. Plus, having a shower implies that everyone has to buy a present which I definitely don't want to do! On the other hand, the things we want to register for are patio chairs, pillows and a grill (among kitchen/bath/linens) which would not be something to just bring to a reception at a restaurant.
To make it more awkward my coworker mentioned getting together with other coworkers and either going to dinner or chipping in and getting us a present/giving us money. I politely declined but I don't really think I can "stop" them. I can't say that they are my favorite people either
and the reception is at a minimum so none of them are invited.
Sorry for the long post, I guess I just need some advice from someone who has been in a similar situation. I don't want to offend anyone or make anyone feel obligated. I am definitely not the type of person who wants any attention and I get embarrassed easily.