Would it be rude to have a wedding registry in this situation?

BaseballGirl8 · August 2012

Please forgive me if this question sounds pretentious in any way but I need some advice from outsiders who aren't biased to the situation!
My fiancé is an athlete and has recently signed a new contract, so he therefore now has a larger income. This was reported on in the news so it's safe to say that most of our family/friends who have been invited to the wedding have heard about it. My question is, in this case, is it still okay that we make a wedding registry? We're a new, younger couple who have never lived together so we need the things that people usually put on registries, but with everyone knowing that we're kinda well-off now, I'm worried they'll think we're being greedy and making them spend money on these things that we could afford on our own.

So, what should we do?! Make a registry or no? Thanks for the help, it's much appreciated and pardon again if the question comes off as a braggadocios in any way.

[Deleted User] · August 2012

I've known lots of well off couples who have registries.

tmwishful · August 2012

You still have the right to have a registry.

LiLe422 · August 2012

Not rude at all. Absolutely register. Just because your FI got a great job doesn't mean people aren't going to buy you wedding gifts. GL!

jessicabessica · August 2012

It's fine. People generally give gifts based on their relationship with the recipient, not the recipient's need. As with any registry, make sure you have things in a variety of price ranges, including stand-alone gifts in the less than $25 and less than $50 ranges.

erbear84 · August 2012

My friend just married a football player and they had a registry. I don't think anyone batted an eye at it.

hoffse · August 2012

You should still have a registry - people will give you gifts regardless, and it's nice to give them a selection. Honestly, if I actually thought about it (which I probably wouldn't in real life), I might find it even odder for you to NOT register after this contract, because that's a social hint for cash gifts. I'd much rather buy you a toaster than give you cash because I can usually get deals, etc. on physical gifts, and you never know exactly how much I spent. That inclination is stronger for couples who are well-off, because I figure giving physical gifts to them might be more meaningful than just padding their already-large bank account, KWIM?

Go ahead and register - you need these items, and just be aware of keeping them in reasonable price brackets - plenty of stand alone gifts in the $0-$25 range and plenty in the $25-$50 range, some but not quite as many in the $50-$100, and some good quality items over $100. I wouldn't think this was weird at all, particularly if you are interested in having some traditional wedding-y type things like china and crystal - most people don't buy that for themselves no matter what their income is (unless it's a gift from their spouse), and then seeing spatulas next to china wouldn't strike me as odd at all.

Carson386 · August 2012

Nothing is wrong with still doing a registry. Plenty of couples that are "well off" money wise still have a registry. As PP said, make sure you have plenty of items in the $0-$25 and $25-$50 range.My cousin and her now husband were well off and the cheapest item on their registry was $150, needless to say, out of 50 guests at her shower, 3 bought her things off her registry.

s-aries8990 · August 2012

I agree with PP, still register for a wide varitey of gifts in a wide range of prices with plenty on the lower-end. If people don't want to buy you something because they think you have enough money, they just won't!

julibug86 · August 2012

Kim Kardashian had a registry. Just saying.

Go ahead and register!

Meegles4 · August 2012

Ditto PPs, assuming you are having a wedding with guests. If you are eloping or doing a private ceremony, you wouldn't do a registry because you wouldn't have any guests that are buying you gifts.

But, if guests are invited and you'll be having pre-wedding events like showers, go for it!

cbvcru67 · August 2012

I agree with PPs - go ahead and register. If anything, I would feel a little uneasy giving cash to a couple so much more well-off than I, because I would worry I couldn't contribute what they were used to. A physical gift usually can be purchased at a bargain or at the very least without an idea of price.

mcskatcat · August 2012

I think it's actually nicer to register in your case because then you're giving them options in their price range. I would feel so weird about what amount of $$ to give if I didn't have a guideline in a case like yours. And I remember last year there was an article when Tony Romo got married about his registry (the writer was an idiot complaining that he registered for a bunch of cheap items) but I'd bet his guests appreciated it!

tmwishful · August 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_would-it-be-rude-to-have-a-wedding-registry-in-this-situation?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:3a276ec4-7b95-4af2-8ce7-1b251eeb1bdcPost:38319671-64ac-4a38-b6d3-f0da3f4deb03">Re: Would it be rude to have a wedding registry in this situation?</a>:
[QUOTE]Kim Kardashian had a registry. Just saying. Go ahead and register! :)
Posted by julibug86[/QUOTE]
Did she really? uggh

BCV513 · August 2012

You have just as much of a right to a wedding and everything that goes with it, including a registry, as everyone else.

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