I have posted on this board a few times about my FILs and stuff, and have received good advice and so I'm doing it again. Long story short, there have been issues between my FMIL and I where I have felt insulted by the way she has treated my FI and myself. Because of this I have temporarily stopped trying to go to their family functions because her behavior doesn't surprise me. My FI supports my decision, but I do want to try and give her a second chance (however that may turn out), and I also do want to get to know the rest of his family (grandparents, cousins and stuff).
This brings me to my point and what I would appreciate advice on. His grandparents are having a family picnic tomorrow and his mom informed him that she (his grandmother) had invited both of us. I am conflicted because I would like to get to know his grandparents, but I am very anxious and nervous about how the rest of his family will treat me, because he has been given the impression that they blame me for the tension that has been between him and his mom/sisters/dad the past few months.
I am prepared for flames. I understand that this probably comes off completely selfish, rude, and immatue. I just want honest advice. Should I suck it up and go to the picnic tomorrow? If I do this should I just keep my mouth shut if anyone says anything insulting or condescending? I guess I kind of already know the answer, I just don't really want to put myself through that ordeal.