Need help....engagement party?

Re: Need help....engagement party?

• mcskatcat member

  

  April 2012

  Engagement parties are thrown for you - not by you, so if someone else is hosting, you can take them up on the offer.  Otherwise, you should not be throwing any wedding-related parties on your own because they are in your honor - this includes bachelorettes and bridal showers.
  
  If you want to have a party just to have a party, that's fine. 

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• JaxInBlue member

  

  April 2012

  If you want to have a party, have a party for family and friends.  You can't call is an engagemetn party, though, if you host it yourselves.  Like any other pre-wedding party, engagement parties are thrown for the couple, not by the couple.  Anyone invited to an e-party, shower or bach party should be invited to the wedding.
  
  Also, if you do decide to get married now in a small ceremony, that is your wedding.  In 2 or 3 or 5 years you would be planning a vow renewal.  Vow renewals can be beautiful and meaningful but they are not weddings.  At a vow renewal you don't have the bridal party, the "bride" and "groom" titles, the first dance - any of the trappings of a wedding.  You can still have a nice service and wear a pretty dress, but you don't get a redo.
  
  If you really want a big party and all the pomp and circumstance, why not have a long engagement and save for the wedding you want?

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• Viczaesar member

  

  April 2012 edited April 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_pre-wedding-parties_need-helpengagement-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:32Discussion:85f80976-5baa-4a4f-a1ef-aca5a95b377bPost:2e4a4110-bb32-477c-8143-ee88c1c834bd">Need help....engagement party?</a>:
  [QUOTE]Ladies, I need some help! I am so stressed out and confused!!!!! My fiance and I would like to get married as soon as possible however we are not financially ready to have a big wedding like I want. My guest list is high however I dont know how to cut it down. So, I have been thinking that we may just get married in the next few months with just our parents and daughter. <strong>Then, maybe in 2-3 or even 5 years have the BIG wedding that I have dreamed of. Is that crazy?</strong> Also, can I have something like a engagement party maybe next month or early Summer? Or maybe call it a blessing party? I just want to be able to celebrate with those who really were there for us throughout our relationship. Please give me ideas. I am desperate and clueless, lol. I can plan like a pro when it comes to work and other peoples parties but with mine I cant! I cant even pick a date. Please help!
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  Yes, that's crazy.  You only get one wedding, unless you get divorced in between weddings.  Whatever day you legally become married to your FI is your wedding day.  You don't get a do over. 
  
  As PPs have said, you cannot throw your own engagement party.

  
  
  
  

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• LizzyTony member

  

  April 2012 edited April 2012

  The reason why I said I have to do it now is because of the financial commitment but also because my pastors are asking us to do it ASAP. I wasnt saying I want a redo. I just always wanted the dress and the big celebration. I guess I will just take what God has for me. Thank you ladies for the advice.

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