Where's my support group?

Beachy730 · November 2010

I'm about to pour myself a glass of wine and am hoping that some people will be on. I think I'm going to open one of the bottles from Wine of the Month club. I may or may not open several tonight.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · November 2010

I may join you soon. I'm on my way home.

Beachy730 · November 2010

Yay!

PsyDet 2155 · November 2010

I'll join you as well

I've had a tough week. How are you doing?

hetshup · November 2010

I'm not your normal support group, but I'm here! Where is your H deploying to? I work pretty much exclusively with military, so I understand as much as a civilian can.

Beachy730 · November 2010

HI. Sorry I was reading about an 18 year old bride who "knows" her marriage will last forever. Blah.

I can honestly say this was one of the worst days of my life, as H left for deployment today. I was a rough morning but its been getting better. I barely slept though last night and have been up since 2am so I keep thinking its much later than 6.

Sorry you had a tough week. Drinks always help though!

Beachy730 · November 2010

hetshup- he's in the Navy on an aircraft carrier on a West-Pac tour.

PsyDet 2155 · November 2010

Do you get to keep in touch with your husband through phone calls and email? I'm sorry you're so bummed

Ash2985 · November 2010

I'm around! I have no wine, though, unfortunately. Sorry today was so rough for you, but it will get better, I promise.

squirrly · November 2010

I'm here. I hope your evening is a little more tolerable than the morning.

hetshup · November 2010

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[QUOTE]hetshup- he's in the Navy on an aircraft carrier on a West-Pac tour.
Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>Ohhhh, is he going to be ship bound the whole time? That's rough, and the bandwidth is so low, it makes sykpe difficult. In honor of his deployment, I have mimosas!</div>

Beachy730 · November 2010

Thanks ladies. I had a whole response typed out and my internet screwed up and lost it. His ship actually left before we moved here, so now he is flying out to it. He had to fly to the East coast first and was able to call a few times on his layover. Now he's on an international flight with a connecting flight after and I won't hear from him until at least 5:30am my time. I have his flight numbers though so I've been able to track the flights at least.

My day has definitely gotten better, just very long. The morning ended up even more rough than I though since I figured a quick goodbye after he checked in, but they gave me a security clearance pass so I could go to the gate with him. (mind you, I had a see through tank top on and no bra under my hoodie since it was 5am, and had to opt for the pat down over taking my hoodie off at security). Being able to go to the gate was nice but definitely long and even more sad, and I was definitely that girl sobbing in H's arms in the middle of the airport.

Beachy730 · November 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Where's my support group? : Ohhhh, is he going to be ship bound the whole time? That's rough, and the bandwidth is so low, it makes sykpe difficult. In honor of his deployment, I have mimosas!
Posted by hetshup[/QUOTE]

Yeah he will, other than the few ports they might go to. They do have the satellite phones on the ship but the calls will be random and I've heard from other wives that there its really hard to hear them. But supposedly email is pretty regular so at least we should be able to email eachother everyday.

Oh it took everything in me not to make mimosas by myself at 8:30 am after the airport. Surprisingly I made it until now before I finally had a drink.

hetshup · November 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Where's my support group? : Yeah he will, other than the few ports they might go to. They do have the satellite phones on the ship but the calls will be random and I've heard from other wives that there its really hard to hear them. But supposedly email is pretty regular so at least we should be able to email eachother everyday. Oh it took everything in me not to make mimosas by myself at 8:30 am after the airport. Surprisingly I made it until now before I finally had a drink.
Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>Thanks great that you made it this late. We find that in port there is lots of communication, but at sea... not so much. But the good news is that he will be safer at sea. That doesn't make it better for you, or easier, but it will get easier everyday. He is closer to coming home now than he was this morning. </div>

Themis278 · November 2010

DNB - I'm not your normal group but I'm here. That sounds horrible ... lots of wine ... moooooore wine!

I'm working on a bottle on Witch's Brew, spiced red wine, from ym native Michigan ... after this it might be back to the finger lakes wine, long work week.

Have you looked into a few of the wineries back here? I think a few do the wine of the month clubs! And it would be a taste of home

Beachy730 · November 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Where's my support group? : Thanks great that you made it this late. We find that in port there is lots of communication, but at sea... not so much. But the good news is that he will be safer at sea. That doesn't make it better for you, or easier, but it will get easier everyday. He is closer to coming home now than he was this morning.
Posted by hetshup[/QUOTE]

Exactly. And I can''t really complain too much since he's been on shore duty since I met him so its our first deployment together. And I've had an extra 2 months with him compared to the rest of the wives on the ship. They will go on another one relatively soon after getting back, but then the ship will be in dry dock and then he'll be on shore duty again so we should have a good 5 years of no deployments after that.

aMrsin09 · November 2010

I'm here.

Sorry to hear about your day, but you can do this. You know you can. If nthing else fake it for DH. It won;t make his job any easier if he thinks your miserable at home.

As for me? It's 11:20 AM and two loads of laundry are done as are the dishes and the filing of paperwork.

Beachy730 · November 2010

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[QUOTE]DNB - I'm not your normal group but I'm here. That sounds horrible ... lots of wine ... moooooore wine! I'm working on a bottle on Witch's Brew, spiced red wine, from ym native Michigan ... after this it might be back to the finger lakes wine, long work week. Have you looked into a few of the wineries back here? I think a few do the wine of the month clubs! And it would be a taste of home
Posted by Themis278[/QUOTE]

I love my NY wines! Washington has great ones too, and there are tons of wineries near us. I should look into if there are any wine of the month clubs that would deliver NY wines to me.

hetshup · November 2010

Let's play a fund game. Tell me a funny story about your H or about the wedding general. Please.

Beachy730 · November 2010

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[QUOTE]I'm here. Sorry to hear about your day, but you can do this. You know you can. If nthing else fake it for DH. It won;t make his job any easier if he thinks your miserable at home. As for me? It's 11:20 AM and two loads of laundry are done as are the dishes and the filing of paperwork.
Posted by aMrsin09[/QUOTE]

You are very right on that, and that is why I've tried to be as good as possible about it in front of him while he was home. I did cry twice yesterday with him, but nothing big.

The thing is I'm completely fine with being alone for the time being and managing the time while he is gone. I cried yesterday when thinking about saying goodbye, and the times I've cried today are when I said goodbye, talked to someone about it, or said goodbye to him on the phone.

squirrly · November 2010

dnb, I just remembered this. . .

My ex-FI did a study abroad during my last semester of college, which was Spring '02. I took him to the airport and we said goodbye outside - I had to drive 4 hours back in a hurry to make it to class. They had recently started the "no parking" at the departures or arrivals doors, so when I sat in the car for a minute to cry and then collect myself, the security guards headed my way in a hurry. When they saw I was ugly crying, they looked SO embarassed and gave me a few minutes to leave on my own.

Are you heading home for the holidays?

Beachy730 · November 2010

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[QUOTE]dnb, I just remembered this. . . My ex-FI did a study abroad during my last semester of college, which was Spring '02. I took him to the airport and we said goodbye outside - I had to drive 4 hours back in a hurry to make it to class. They had recently started the "no parking" at the departures or arrivals doors, so when I sat in the car for a minute to cry and then collect myself, the security guards headed my way in a hurry. When they saw I was ugly crying, they looked SO embarassed and gave me a few minutes to leave on my own. Are you heading home for the holidays?
Posted by squirrly[/QUOTE]

Aww. Yeah that was me today because I sat down in the car and started crying, then heard a honk and realized someone had followed me and was waiting for my parking spot. So I made myself pull it together for the hour drive home in wicked morning rush hour.

Yes i have a flight booked to go home for 2 weeks at Christmas. And I have a friend booked with he BF to come visit in January, my parents are coming the first week in March, and another friend is about to book for February. So I really just need to get myself through until Christmas and then the rest should hopefully fly by.

Themis278 · November 2010

Ugly crying is not good for anyone ... esp anyone that tries to interrupt it!

DNB - Do the drive. Some of my 'orphin' holidays have been my best. Actually Christmas after FI and I met was probably one of my best to date actually, and he ended up meeting us out at East Ave in Rochester on Christmas day ... let me tell you it is an interesting crowd!

Beachy730 · November 2010

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[QUOTE]I can offer you beverages from the Santa Ynez Valley of CA. if I ever figure out MD, I can offer you drinks from here too! My funny story, in the south it's bad luck to walk in the rehearsal. No one told me this, so I was about to walk down the aisle and practically got tackled for ruining the rehearsal. DNB-- I don't get it.....
Posted by hetshup[/QUOTE]

I've never heard that about the RD.

Yeah that story wasn't wedding related at all. Hmmm, funny wedding story then...
My little cousins who were both 4 were drooling on the dance floor during the cake cutting because they though it was cake time. So I went over and fed them each a bite. Then one of my best friends who loves his sweets started yelling for me and pointing to his mouth, so I grabbed another piece of cake and smashed it in his face. H and I had promised eachother we would be good about it, so I was happy to be able to shove it in someone's face.

Beachy730 · November 2010

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[QUOTE]Ugly crying is not good for anyone ... esp anyone that tries to interrupt it! DNB - Do the drive. Some of my 'orphin' holidays have been my best. Actually Christmas after FI and I met was probably one of my best to date actually, and he ended up meeting us out at East Ave in Rochester on Christmas day ... let me tell you it is an interesting crowd!
Posted by Themis278[/QUOTE]

Yeah I most likely will. One of the wives that lives near me here has said if I don't go there she is bringing me to her Thanksgiving dinner, so its just a matter of deciding. Its weird though because even when I was away at college my first 2 years I only went to Brockport so I was home at every holiday.

andy71781 · November 2010

Hi sweetie!!! Sorry I was at dinner. Ugh it was the THIRD date night in a row that I've had to send my food back. Tonight an entree that didn't advertise cheese had parmesan ALL over it.

Anyway I'm back and kinda drunk so hi!!!!

JadziaDax · November 2010

Hey, just wanted to pop in and say Hi. I hope you feel better.

hetshup · November 2010

I just tried to do drunk fractions. AKA baking. Andy you can't handle cheese even?? There isn't supposed to be lactose after the cheese process

Beachy730 · November 2010

Squirrly the black friday shopping is why I'm debating on if I want to go anywhere. There is a great plaza right at my corner with Target and Best Buy and stuff. And there's an outlet mall about 5 minutes from our place. So I kinda just want to be here. And speaking of Coach, apparently our Navy Exchange store is going to have an extra 20% off Coach purses on Black Friday, so they will end up being almost 40% off.

andy71781 · November 2010

I'm totally waiting for any shopping at Macy's or Express for black friday.

Beachy730 · November 2010

I had to switch to Whipped Cream vodka now. I've had a werid stomach all day, and was nauseated all morning, so the new wine, while very good, wasn't sitting right.

Hetshup I have a Pampered Chef magnet on my fridge that has different measurement fractions figured out for me. I'd be lost if not.

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