So, I'm really loving this board and I feel like I've been posting so much lately. I really value all of the advice all of you ladies have given me!
Anyways, onto the issue.
So, I asked a friend to be a BM who I haven't really kept that close with the last couple years but we have been friends since we were kids so I assumed it was what I was supposed to do.
Now, I feel like I should start by saying I do not want to kick her out of the wedding! I've read all sorts of posts about that and it's quite clear that that is a friendship ending move and one that most people end up regretting after.
She has been totally unsupportive since day one. She refused to ever come dress shopping or do anything with me/to help me (her excuses were always things like "nah, I'm making lunch for myself and then taking a bath" never anything like work, school, etc.)
This obviously bothered be, but I've also learned on these boards that the only technical duty of a BM is to buy the dress and show up. Which she did buy the dress, so I can't complain about that.
Now it's gotten more personal. While I was frustrated about petty things before, now she is being a huge B to the best man for no apparent reason (who I am pretty close with) and the other day when FI asked her about something wedding related she blew up on him, told him to F off and that it was none of his business what she was doing. Seriously uncalled for.
I find this completely unacceptable behavior so I confronted her about it. I said that I loved her but the fact that she hasn't been supportive really hurts me and I explained that if she had a problem with other people in the wedding party it was going to make everything for the wedding awkward and difficult and I really needed her to be there for this important time. She then proceeded to make me feel like I was the bad guy for "attacking" her (not even close) and that I hurt her feelings for saying she would be difficult about anything. I really truly was kind when I spoke with her and I never got offensive or anything.
Oh, and by the way, right before this conversation she says to me "oh I know your shower is on the 17th but I'm not going to make it because my friend just invited me to the beach that weekend"
So, if you are patient enough to read this whole post, you rock! Please help me out here...I feel like I'm holding onto her as a friend in general only because we've been friends for so long, but she isn't supportive, and when she crosses the line she clearly doesn't even care. Help!