This may not be etiquette and may even be just me venting but I have a problem with my FI's groomsmen right now. Let me clarify, lack of groomsmen. The wedding is close, like 6 weeks away. He has asked his best man to be in the wedding, he accepted. I have 1 MOH and 3 bridemaids, all accepted and all but one ticket booked so my side is set. I don't care if they are even numbers or not, he can have who he wants standing by him regardless of numbers.
The problem is, we live far (Guam) from the states and tix are EXPENSIVE! He really wants his two best friends from the Academy to be in the wedding (who also just happened to both get engaged last year and married this!) but one lives in CA and one lives in FL, well they are stationed there. He asked (like in Jan), they haven't gave definate answers yet.
We offered buddy passes for plane tix and haven't heard back yet still. The biggest problem it sounds like is actually is them gettting leave. The miltary tells you when you can go, it's easier for them bc they are officers to get the dates actually approved but they don't know if they will have enough leave saved up since they are both getting married and need to take time off for their own weddings. All good, understand, not mad.
FI is irritating me just a tad bc there is one more friend stationed here is planning on asking (he literally sees him everday at work and he lives in our building!) and hasn't yet...what is up with the procrastination dude??? Oh and none of them have to go get tux's bc it is a military wedding where they will be wearing their uniforms.
Here's the thing, how long do I have to wait til I know who is in this wedding? I need to get programs printed, final counts for the rehearsal dinner, etc. Also we accumulated enough miles to offer them free tickets here now, should we tell them or wait to hear something back? I don't want to seem all pushy but I really wanna tell my FI to get an answer man, yes or no but just get one!