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Addressing Save the Dates

marta119marta119
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I'm in the process of addressing my Save the Dates and I was wondering if there is a way to address them other than traditional Mr. & Mrs. John Doe?
More specifically, is there a way to include the wife's first name?
Are any of these correct?
Mr. John & Mrs. Jane Doe
Mr. & Mrs. Jane and John Doe
Mrs. Jane & Mr. John Doe
I know these look a little awkward but they are just few combinations I could come up with.
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    Actually, none of these are correct.

    If you don't want to use Mr. and Mrs. John Doe, I'd use either:

    John and Jane Doe

    or

    Ms. Jane Smith
    Mr. John Doe

    if they have different last names.  Whether or not they are "traditional" should not be a factor in what you do.
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  • lauralaurlauralaur member
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    I thought the male's name wasn't supposed to be separated from his last name? So it would be Jane and John Doe? I can't remember where I read that though. How formal do you want these to be?
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  • marta119marta119
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    So I googled this and found this website:
    http://www.everythinghandwritten.com/etiquette.html

    Under the section Titles (3rd paragraph) it says:
    If you are addressing a married couple and want to use both of their first names, the husband’s name must be kept next to the surname, for example: Mrs. Susan and Mr. Marvin Jones or Mrs. Susan Jones and Mr. Marvin Jones.

    Again, Mrs. Susan and Mr. Marvin Jones just looks awkward to me, and that's why I was asking here..... is this person just not know what their talking about?
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  • vanityinkvanityink member
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    I've always heard that it's technically wrong to have Mrs. with anything but the husband's name (unless the woman is a widow) So it would be Jane Smith, but Mrs. John Smith. This has fallen out a bit, especially with the feminist movement, but it's why Mary Todd Lincoln signed her letters to aquaintences "Mrs. Abraham Lincoln"
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  • DMoore421DMoore421 member
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    I just sent mine out - and they were all sent to Mr & Mrs. Smith if they had different last names even if married they were
    Mr. John Smith
    Ms. Jane Doe
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_addressing-save-the-dates-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:25ee21e2-0dad-44be-b3dd-911ea3821dddPost:a84488ae-9875-422e-ba42-4cd5b3723984">Re: Addressing Save the Dates</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Addressing Save the Dates : It should actually be 'Jane and John Doe.' 
    Posted by Sleeper2013[/QUOTE]

    Whichever.  The point is, it's not correct to use "Mrs. Susan and Mr. John."
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