Silly me...

Button5807 · December 2009

I'm not really sure what I was thinking when I set up this week to work a full day today and a half day tomorrow after my 4 day weekend. There is no way I'm going to reach an acceptable level of productivity.

I'm feeling really fussy and whiney today so I'm avoiding my coworkers, the wrong move might set off a temper tantrum and that would be pretty embarassing.

For the first time ever I did a very poor job this holiday season with my time management, I didn't account for how much damage the 2 day trip to DC would do. Totally worth it though big blue saw to that!

I keep making lists of things I need to get done before tomorrow but that's just makingme more cranky because none of it can get done until after I leave work! So before I drive myself completely bonkers, does anyone feel like entertaining me?

P.S. Happy Festivus for those who celebrate.

jeanacorina · December 2009

Interesting tidbit: I just found out for sure (although I've suspected for quite a long time) that my first boyfriend (from long long ago) is now gay.

I thought that was slightly interesting on this very boring, long day-before-a-4-day-weekend. He's shirtless and hugging another guy in his FaceBook pic. It just doesn't even seem weird to me.

You'd think it would be weird to me that a guy I kissed a decade ago is now kissing guys. But really, I'm kind of happy for him. Like, yay! You go, boy!

Button5807 · December 2009

We did the math once and 84% of my ex boyfriends are now in relationships with men. I'm happy for them but not really sure how that makes me feel about myself. lol

jeanacorina · December 2009

Woah, Button. I don't know how that would make me feel, either! lol

As far as I know, it's just one who swapped sides. Well, let's see:

First BF: homosexual

2nd BF (the one who grosses me out now): unknown

3rd BF (the one who broke my heart): knocked up some chick and works at a gas station-- TAKE THAT, A$$HOLE!

4th BF (who told me I was too selfish): last I heard still single and living with mom

ex-fiance: Don't know, don't care, don't want to know.... but he contacted me once wanting to make me his life insurance beneficiary... I told him no thanks I wanted nothing to do with him ever

Mexican lover: is now happily married, and wants to hook us up with a great deal at a resort for our honeymoon, so I hear through my grandparents (they're good friends with him, I haven't spoken to him since.... what happens in Mexico stays in Mexico!) Dunno about that honeymoon thing. FI agrees with me, that's awkward as all hell.

English BF who broke my heart after 3 years: is now a "changed man" and wrote a song apologizing to me for all the pain he caused when he was an emotional black hole. I would punch him in the face if he wasn't across an ocean.

Nice guy I never loved: moved out of his dad's basement and seems to be doing fine, although he thought my leaving him would be the death of him. No hard feelings.

I don't talk to any of them anymore, so I dunno... maybe more of them are gay.

Button5807 · December 2009

Jeana the strangest part is that for almost all of them I was either the last or only female they dated.

As far as what my exes are up too the gay ones all seem really happy, successful and way more attractive then when we dated. lol I don't know much about the other ones because I don't care and we don't have mutual friends but I did hear recently that the guy I was on and off with for 7 years who broke my heart a dozen times because I was too stupid to get over him is now lonely and I am still his favorite topic of conversation when he's drunk. I'm still bitter enough where that makes me kind of happy.

Acrosthec · December 2009

That looks like a fun game Jeana - let's see:

1st boyfriend: is also my best friend since I was about 2, and we'll be hanging out with a huge group of our HS friends (including boyfriend #8 and my FI) this weekend. I haven't seen him in about 3 years. He's living out in CA with a friend from HS and wandering from job to job. He kind of lacks direction, but I'm sure he'll get there eventually. He IS very smart.

2nd boyfriend: not sure, but I think he's somewhere in GA, single, and has a good job. He seems happy enough in his FB pictures.

3rd boyfriend: last I heard playing music and living in our hometown waiting tables. He's the one who told me "I don't believe in love" when I told him I loved him. Since then I've never been the first one to say it EVER. Scarred for life.

4th boyfriend: mysteriously contacted me on facebook this past weekend telling me he missed me and hoped I was doing well. Other than that I haven't spoken to him in about a year or so other than to wish him a happy birthday. Last I heard he was playing music and running sound for bands at a bar in our hometown (way to put that "Sound Design" degree to work...sigh)

5th boyfriend: unsure, but he's the one I always thought was gay, so it wouldn't surprise me. last I heard he's living out in Oregon or something and on various drugs.

6th boyfriend (the one that broke my heart): living in Texas and dating someone. Rides bikes competitively and has a job he hates. We don't speak anymore because every time we did it was "we had a really great time together, maybe we should give it another try, blah blah blah" so I just called it quits one day and haven't spoken to him basically since I started dating FI.

7th boyfriend (the rebound from 6): from what I can tell, still single and living in Virginia working at the same job he had when we were dating. He was a nice guy, and he adored me, but it just wasn't right. I really used him, and felt terrible about it for a long time. We talked once since we broke up, and I apologized and he forgave me, but we decided it's best that we not communicate for his sake. That was about 1.5 years ago.

8th boyfriend: the friend turned friend with benefits. We never really dated, but I would have in a heartbeat. He was one of my best friends, and we decided that we were bored, and well, you know. It was fun while it lasted, but we both knew it couldn't go on or else our friendship would be gone forever (in the end it did take somewhat of a hit, but we're working on it). He's actually a mutual friend of mine and FI's, and the guy that introduced us.

9th boyfriend: The Canadian. He was a lot of fun, and a great friend, but in the end it just wasn't right (mostly because I would never have dated him had FI been available - FI was dating someone else when we first met, but broke up with them while I was dating #9). He had no ambition to move forward in life, get a job, start a family, NOTHING. All he wanted to do was work on a cruise ship so he could travel the tropics, yet he was in law school. I never understood. He was super-smart, he just chose not to use it ever.

10th boyfriend: IS NOW MY FI! :-)

jeanacorina · December 2009

It is a pretty interesting game.

its apelila · December 2009

Ohhh, I kinda want to play...

1st BF: We dated for nearly 4 years, all through high school. Last sighting was about 2 years ago when my parents ordered pizza and he was the one that delivered it. AWKWARD.

2nd BF: Was 5 years older than me, and broke up with me (after living together for 2 years) after his mom convinced him we were living in sin. Still lived with parents up until last year, to my knowledge.

3rd BF: Refused to be called my "BF" even though we were monogamously physical for 3-ish years. I moved halfway across the country to try and make this one work. Uber-glad it didnt. We're still good friends, but he's incredibly sad, lonely and depressed.

4th BF: (aka current BF) Met through BF#3, who encouraged me to get over him. Thank you a metric $hit-ton, BF#3.

jeanacorina · December 2009

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_silly?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:257c3658-ad6c-43e8-b2c4-5705fed8a53ePost:e9a260c4-433d-4137-b5a9-44abec132382">Re: Silly me...</a>:
[QUOTE]Ohhh, I kinda want to play... 1st BF: We dated for nearly 4 years, all through high school. Last sighting was about 2 years ago when my parents ordered pizza and he was the one that delivered it. AWKWARD.
Posted by its apelila[/QUOTE]

LOL, that's awesome. I love that. I saw the first guy who broke my heart a couple of years ago when he came into GameStop (where I was an assistant manager) to trade in his video games for cash because his GF was pregnant. He was wearing a jumpsuit from a local gas station with his name on it.

I was driving home a few days later and sure enough, there he was pumping gas. Ah, full-service gas stations. What a rarity these days. I most certainly hold grudges, because it makes my day a little more happy when I know someone who treated me like crap is having a hard time.

I'm a bad person for that. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-undecided.gif" border="0" alt="Undecided" title="Undecided" />

Button5807 · December 2009

Jeana I don't think you're a bad person for it, but that's because I'm the same way. I figure as long as we don't run up to them and yell HA HA! then we're good.

pinkpinot · December 2009

Jeana - your ex bf #3 sounds like a very good friend of mine.

hetshup · December 2009

Oh this IS fun. Let me try:

1st BF-- We broke up in HS b\c I was going to college and was WAAAAY more mature then him. And I wasn't so much for the cocaine use. In touch with him, he has not had a serious relationship since and still loves me. Just got back from Iraq on deployment and is doing well and is healthy

1.5 BF-- Just a fun summer romance before college, he's married and works at Lockheed Martin. Owns a house, living the American Dream.

2-- The heart breaker. Broke up while he was in London, it was horrible. He is also married, but his degree was in PoliSci so he's laid off. His wife looks just like him, it's a little creepy.

2.5 -- Rebound from heartbreak, proposed after 2 mo together and I asked if he was smoking crack. I guess he's running the family business and doing well. I later found out that he's a member of a Klan offshoot. NOT COOL. Oh yes, we also got into an arguement about my classes in college. Human evolution and african american culture are unacceptable to him, well he told me to stop taking them, I ignored him and ended it. I did love human evolution.

3-- Current BF, he's also a rebound first somewhere between 2 & 2.5

pinkpinot · December 2009

Oh what the heck

bf #1 broke my heart in high school - we were supposed to be together foreverrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!!1!!11!!!1111. He is married with baby #2 on the way.

bf #2 had many red flags but at 19 years old, I didn't recognize red flags for what they were. He is currently 30 years old still lives at home and spends his paycheck on strippers & coke.

bf #3 was a total HERB. He had a bug collection for cryin out loud!! WTF was I thinking? No idea. I have no clue what he is up to, we haven't interacted since the breakup and luckily we have no mutual friends.

bf #4 turned into FI and I met him through bf# 2. Oh what tangled webs we weave.

jeanacorina · December 2009

LOL I totally get the "foreverrrrrrrrrr!!!!1!!111!!" thing. That was every BF up until the one I didn't love who was madly in love with me and thought I was God's gift to the world and could do no wrong.

I think I always knew I wouldn't be with him forever. When I met FI I was pretty jaded and told him I would never again think a relationship was going to last forever until I was at least engaged, probably married.

How ironic that once I figured out that not every relationship leads to marriage, I find the guy I'm going to marry. Teehee.

pinkpinot · December 2009

Jeana I dated that guy too! He is my #2 - he is still obsessed with me 6 years later. It's bad but since he's found out about my engagement he has left me alone which is good. Up until then he would call me twice a week and always go on and on about all these changes he was making in his life, he never made any. I never loved him either, I was just really young and he was older and it was appealing at that time. That's why it's hard to not give the side eye when 18/19 year olds are on the boards. I remember who I was & who I dated at that age, total MISTAKES.

jeanacorina · December 2009

Pink-- I know! I was engaged at 19 to a total JERK, and if I'd had two brain cells to rub together I would have noticed that he was no good for me. But, at that age I was an idiot.

In fact, I think I was an idiot right up until 6 years ago when I realized not every relationship has a happy ending, and not all love lasts forever.

Do you see how many broken hearts I had to go through in order to realize that? I'm surprised FI even wanted me, as jaded as I was when he met me!

And, actually, when he met me, I was still in love with the English musician... and living with the puppy-love dude who was obsessed with me. I was so mixed up!

Dang, am I lucky to have such a solid, NORMAL relationship now.

kailss · December 2009

ohhhh! i want to play!

BF #1: dated in HS for about 1 1/2 yrs (we were neighbors for 7 yrs before my family moved), is 24 now and last i heard (about 3 months ago) was dating a girl that is still in HS and went to prom last year.

BF #2: aka: my first love. dated for two years most of which was long distance. he dumped me and broke my heart. is now a mechanical engineer living in germany with his wife and 2 year old daughter. we stayed friends and in close contact until about the last 6 months.

BF #3: aka: piece of sh!t. only lasted a month and a half and basically he was just using me for one thing. he joined the national guard. he was supposedly married to some babee [18 yr old] the last time i heard.

BF #4: this is by far my most bizarre relationship [i was in my rebellious phase where i did anything to piss my parents off]. met him at a gay bar, however he will deny until the day hell freezes over that he is gay. dated for 6 months, went to boston with him about a month into our relationship. he cheated on me with some skank we both know from the bar. [didnt find out until 2 years later] left him for being a selfish person when it comes to relationships, basically it was all about him and his agenda. to this day, he still claims that he is in love with me and that he made a huge mistake by letting me leave him [like he had any other choice].

BF #5: religious jesus-freak. let me just say right now, i have no problems whatsoever about church and loving god, i go to church myself. but this kid was ridiculous, not only was he saving sex for marriage [again, not judging, i have no issues with it, just not the thing for me] but he refused to kiss anyone until his wedding day when he got to kiss his wife for the first time as her husband. i got ZERO affection for the whole 3 months the relationship lasted. plus he was VERY pushy about my "relationship with god" and if it wasnt exactly what he thought it should be then he wasnt happy. i put this guy in the "bible thumper" category. last i heard he is now living in WV with his wife, 1 yr old daughter, with a second on the way.

BF #6: current bf. totally different that all previous bfs and i think that's a good thing.

Hazel_B · December 2009

This is very fun.... let me give it a try:

BF 1: English guy I met in uni, dated in uni but still really kept in touch and were semi dating with no definition when he went back to the UK.

BF 2: Broke up with me immediately after Christmas. Still working at the gym where I met him and still single, Although we are friends and he comes to my birthday and Christmas parties.

BF 1: Again, had a fling on vacation to Europe.

BF 3: Complete jerk and treated me bad. It wasn't until he wouldn't accept my gay friends as people that I finally saw him for what he was. Works at RIM and single as far as I know.

BF 1: Again, this time we experimented to see if it'd work by travelling around the world together for 4 months. Had an amazing time, never fought, promptly broke up at the end of the trip. Still friends, he's currently dating someone for about 6 months.

Rebound 1: We were both eachothers rebounds, with neither or us looking for something serious.

Rebound 2: Thought I could benefit from learning French from him. Broke up after Christmas (I guess I have a thing)

Current BF

loopy82 · December 2009

Because I'm staying up late and finally have a day off tomorrow!!

BF#1--I don't know how much this counts--he was called my bf, but it lasted about a month. He broke up with me for his friend. A couple years ago I saw a news story that he was beat to death. Creepy thing to see on TV.

BF#2-- This is the insane one I went into detail in the crazy ex post.

BF#3-- I went directly into this relationship from #2. He was my first love. Insanely smart and attractive. Dated for 2 years. I broke up with him because I felt like I needed to experience life since I date him from when I was 18-20. He got married a few months ago after getting engaged a few months into the relationship to a girl whom I knew who dated a unrelated friend. What a small strange world.

BF#4-- Met right before moving 2 hours away for college. I dated him for about a year. I always kind of knew it wouldn't last, but when he abruptly broke up with me it made me horribly pissed at all guys for a good year. That year turned out to be awesome! It's good to have time when you are wanting nothing more than to be single and go out and have fun. He is still dating the girl he broke up with me for. That was 6 years ago and they are still bf/gf. That works for some people, but not me. I guess he did me a favor.

BF#5-- Met through a mutual friend. This last for about 4 months. It all fell apart after his mom passed away from cancer. He is now living in AZ and is desperately seeking someone. It was a good relationship to have after my man hating phase. We had fun.

BF#6-- Met through a mutual friend again. Dated about 5ish months until he decided he wanted to go back to his on again off again gf. I still occaisionally see him as we have a few mutual friends. He is now living with a different girl. He seems happy.

(I'm going to copy hetsup here) BF#6.5-- Met him via facebook. At first I couldn't believe my luck, he contacted me but I thought he was everything i was looking for. Well about a week into it, I realized that wasn't the case. This relationship lasted all of a month. I wanted to break up with him after a few weeks, but he seemed as though he would be one who would go BSC if someone broke up with him. Luckily while I was trying to figure out how to end it he choose to call and end it with me. I think I jumped for joy after that phone call. He recently sent me a friend request on FB. He got married this past fall.

BF#--7 This is my now FI!

its apelila · December 2009

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_silly?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:257c3658-ad6c-43e8-b2c4-5705fed8a53ePost:82f35b87-6628-4eb3-a87f-642f2fec541a">Re: Silly me...</a>:
[QUOTE] Dang, am I lucky to have such a solid, NORMAL relationship now.
Posted by jeanacorina[/QUOTE]

The past really makes you realize and appreciate how effin wonderful the men we have now are, right??

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