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Close friend/FI's ex getting married today (Vent)

simplyhippiesimplyhippie
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Backstory, my ex, FI, his ex and I have all been friends for 9 years.  For those entire 9 years, my ex has told me that FI's ex just uses me and is selfish. I'm one of those 'I see the good in everybody' people, and refused to believe it...even 8 years later when FI and I hooked up and he said the same thing.

Fastforward to last week.  I had a stomach virus and the clutch in my car was going out, so I told her I couldn't make it to her bridal shower. She texted me several times with 'You HAVE to be there', so I showed.  My 5 year old and I wound up stranded on the way home, so I texted her and let her know it was almost 11pm and I was stuck on the side of a highway.  She never responded...even the next day, until around 8pm the next day when she wanted to know if I could bring something to the wedding.  (Side note: She and her fiance both have now have my stomach bug, and she said she didn't respond to my text because she was 'Busy having sex, sorry')

Yesterday, she messages me and asks if she can come by and pick up my iPod that she asked to borrow weeks ago. Ceremony is today, and I needed to go get the stuff for sausage balls. I said yes....and waited up until after midnight for her to either show up or text me back.  She didn't do either. Updated her facebook fifteen hundred times, but never bothered to let me know she wasn't coming by.  I finally went to bed when her status said she was going to bed - couldn't get my kid out at almost 1am to go get sausage, thats for sure.

Today, she just sends me a message that says 'I'm sure you realize just how busy I've been. If you can bring it to the ceremony, that'd be great. I'll see you there.'  Bring it to the ceremony?  With what flippin' music on it?!  Is she going to walk down the aisle to whatever is on my iPod? o.O And I know exactly how busy you are the days before a wedding, but if you can update your status fifteen hundred times you can TEXT a friend back after you asked them for a favor. 

I so just want to stay home, but I convinced the ex to go with me and he'd probabl kill me if I didn't show up. /sigh.
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  • ChanelShadesChanelShades
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    She isn't your friend.
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  • astanosastanos
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    I'm sorry that really sucks!  I have a friend like that too...I will text her and she won't text me back but she'll update her Facebook status.  It's like she only wants to be my friend on HER time or when she wants something.  I applaud you for being the bigger person and going anyways!!
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  • simplyhippiesimplyhippie
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_close-friendfis-ex-getting-married-today-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:9d2b1e63-b8cb-40d5-88da-8afa8e67ba99Post:02a73030-7ccf-47b1-a6d7-63aee9b05db8">Re: Close friend/FI's ex getting married today (Vent)</a>:
    [QUOTE]She isn't your friend.
    Posted by ChanelShades[/QUOTE]
    I realize that...<em>now</em>.  <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-embarassed.gif" border="0" alt="Embarassed" title="Embarassed" />  I do believe I'm just going to sit through this wedding, and then disappear as much as she'll let me. I'd skip it altogether but my 5 year old is so excited about going to a wedding that she's dressed 4 hours ahead of time and my dearest ex already bought something to wear.

    I think I'll just suck it up, get it over with, move on. ♥ 
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  • KatyRoseMKatyRoseM member
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    That sucks, bring the ipod with nothing on it?  OK thats mean, but just a thought.
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  • quotequeenquotequeen member
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    What is on the ipod really isn't your problem.  Just bring the ipod and let her figure it out.  Then cut her off after the wedding.
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    Agreed. She isn't your friend. Sometimes weddings bring out people's true colors and friendships. Make the best of it and then cut your losses and move on after the wedding.

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  • simplyhippiesimplyhippie
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    Not only did I attend the wedding, but I even stayed and helped her disabled mother and very old grandmother clean up afterwards. ♥ Now, I'm done.

    ~happy dance for cutting negativity~
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  • trix1223trix1223 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_close-friendfis-ex-getting-married-today-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:9d2b1e63-b8cb-40d5-88da-8afa8e67ba99Post:e99ee29d-0e43-48ae-8b6b-c87202b4d54b">Re: Close friend/FI's ex getting married today (Vent)</a>:
    [QUOTE]Not only did I attend the wedding, but I even stayed and helped her disabled mother and very old grandmother clean up afterwards. ♥ Now, I'm done. ~happy dance for cutting negativity~
    Posted by simplyhippie[/QUOTE]

    You are a truly good person.  =)
    "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146
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  • CantiaCantia member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_close-friendfis-ex-getting-married-today-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:9d2b1e63-b8cb-40d5-88da-8afa8e67ba99Post:e99ee29d-0e43-48ae-8b6b-c87202b4d54b">Re: Close friend/FI's ex getting married today (Vent)</a>:
    [QUOTE]Not only did I attend the wedding, but I even stayed and <strong>helped her disabled mother and very old grandmother clean up</strong> afterwards. ♥ Now, I'm done. ~happy dance for cutting negativity~
    Posted by simplyhippie[/QUOTE]

    <div>Shame on her, you are a bigger person than me that's all I can say. She sounds like a piece of work.</div>
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