Ring and cost

Peaseblossom55 · July 2012

I'm somewhere in the middle on this. I've told BF not to spend over $5000, but at the end of the day it's his money. I don't want a huge expensive ring. I'd rather see the money go towards a house. I would hope whatever he does thoughtful, I will love it because of what it represents. Some may even say $5000 is a lot of money, to each his own. I don't think a engagement ring is a reason to go into debt or spend a live savings on.

cu97tiger · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_ring-and-cost?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:9556c006-757a-4a8f-a28d-2bd248d489daPost:d178303c-eb6b-4ef5-beec-42855040c8a4">Re: Ring and cost</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ring and cost : I do not hate children, I didn't want to have children by my previous relationship. I was just saying, in general about what we sometimes think we want.
Posted by livsparks[/QUOTE]

<div>Ok. Even though we might agree on rings, I think you should hold off on getting married to a man with kids so quickly. You love him, and have these amazing feelings. If it's the real deal, those feelings will still be there in a year. If it's not, instead of breaking up with your boyfriend, you'll be divorcing him and trying to figure out how you fit in your stepchildren's life.</div>

thejucheidea · July 2012

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[QUOTE]I'm just going to sit here in the corner and twitch. Mmmmmkay?
Posted by peekaboo2011[/QUOTE]

Ditto.

livsparks · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ring and cost : Ditto.
Posted by ahstillwell[/QUOTE]
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</div><div>I'm not sure what Ditto has to do with anything, but alright. </div>

motoLyn · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ring and cost : I'm not sure what Ditto has to do with anything, but alright.
Posted by livsparks[/QUOTE]

That ahstillwell and PeeK are going to just sit in the corner and twitch. I'm just glancing through as what I would say has already been said. You have your opinions and do with them what you wish.

livsparks · July 2012

It seems people on this site are very hostile from time to time...

peekaboo2011 · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_ring-and-cost?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:9556c006-757a-4a8f-a28d-2bd248d489daPost:9e1b15ae-3573-423c-802c-5abb9d3522e3">Re: Ring and cost</a>:
[QUOTE]It seems people on this site are very hostile from time to time...
Posted by livsparks[/QUOTE]

<div>You would be too if crazies like yourself kept popping up every 10 minutes.</div>

thejucheidea · July 2012

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[QUOTE]It seems people on this site are very hostile from time to time...
Posted by livsparks[/QUOTE]

I think we're just derp intolerant.

motoLyn · July 2012

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[QUOTE]It seems people on this site are very hostile from time to time...
Posted by livsparks[/QUOTE]

Its true and MOST, I would say not all boards are the same. In any given week several posters will come in here and spout the same line about being in love with "future fiance" "future husband" , "fiance to be" and how they know they want to marry each other and their issue is planning a wedding before they get engaged, or BF can't afford the ring of her dreams so what should she do OR she wants him to finance the ring so she CAN HAVE IT NOW! And you know what we say that to that?..... Calm the eff down. We've all been in your position so that poster is not a special snow flake. Engagements will happen when they happen. Also yes a person can be engaged without a ring. Just as long as BOTH parties agree to moving forward. The ladies here give good advice and these BSC posters don't take any advice that opposes what deluded thoughts they have so they leave in a huff. Some ladies here have come to the " do not pass go do not collect $200" and go straight to snarky.

SO help me god if I hear another poster talk about buying her dress before she engaged I will go POSTAL. Now.... if day in and day out you encounter people like that I think yes you too would be a little hostile. If you don't then well you are Mother Teresa and I'm going to hell.

SKP82 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ring and cost : You would be too if crazies like yourself kept popping up every 10 minutes.
Posted by peekaboo2011[/QUOTE]

Totes.

K Everdeen12 · July 2012

You think this was hostile? We're giving reasonable advice to someone. Most people don't want to tell their friends and family exactly what they think because they are afraid of offending them or hurting their feelings. Instead, they'll judge them silently or behind their backs. We don't have personal relationships with the OP, so we're telling her bluntly what we think. Yes, I think it's nuts to be talking marriage to someone with two kids that you've only been dating 6 months. I'm sure her friends and family would say the same, but wouldn't say it to her face to avoid an *actual* hostile reaction.

livsparks · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_ring-and-cost?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:9556c006-757a-4a8f-a28d-2bd248d489daPost:9d26ded5-cee9-42a0-8521-f2f169c5e699">Re: Ring and cost</a>:
[QUOTE]You think this was hostile? We're giving reasonable advice to someone. Most people don't want to tell their friends and family exactly what they think because they are afraid of offending them or hurting their feelings. Instead, they'll judge them silently or behind their backs. We don't have personal relationships with the OP, so we're telling her bluntly what we think. Yes, I think it's nuts to be talking marriage to someone with two kids that you've only been dating 6 months. I'm sure her friends and family would say the same, but wouldn't say it to her face to avoid an *actual* hostile reaction.
Posted by K Everdeen12[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>Whatever makes you feel better... </div>

livsparks · July 2012

So what you all are saying, is that if people do not go about getting married or engaged the exact way you all find suitable they are crazies... interesting... Because I know many people who went a very traditional way of getting married and many of them are getting divorced. I asked for advice nor did I get mad at any advice but it's silly to assume that everyone must think just as you do and if they are in love or do not go by the standards of what you think is acceptable they are "crazies." Welcome to the world of crazies, because if you are going to call someone out about being crazy then perhaps you are the crazy one. I simply said people seem to get worked up over nothing. I think it's weird that women go wedding dress shopping before they have boyfriends, and I have seen it. I think planning your wedding since you were a little girl is odd, I never did that. I don't want to be a princess, I simply asked a question. I feel no need to justify how I feel about who I am with, and what would make your love more valid than my love?

If you take it personal then that is your issue, I only commented on what I observed. Just like you all have.

livsparks · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ring and cost : Its true and MOST, I would say not all boards are the same. In any given week several posters will come in here and spout the same line about being in love with "future fiance" "future husband" , "fiance to be" and how they know they want to marry each other and their issue is planning a wedding before they get engaged, or BF can't afford the ring of her dreams so what should she do OR she wants him to finance the ring so she CAN HAVE IT NOW! And you know what we say that to that?..... Calm the eff down. We've all been in your position so that poster is not a special snow flake. Engagements will happen when they happen. Also yes a person can be engaged without a ring. Just as long as BOTH parties agree to moving forward. The ladies here give good advice and these BSC posters don't take any advice that opposes what deluded thoughts they have so they leave in a huff. Some ladies here have come to the " do not pass go do not collect $200" and go straight to snarky. SO help me god if I hear another poster talk about buying her dress before she engaged I will go POSTAL. Now.... if day in and day out you encounter people like that I think yes you too would be a little hostile. If you don't then well you are Mother Teresa and I'm going to hell.
Posted by motoLyn[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>I do not think getting a dress before a date is set is acceptable, but people do things out of the ordinary all the time. I feel no need to produce an angry response to someone over the internet. I understand what you are saying, but I did really want advice because I tend to not know what to do nor do I not know much about the wedding world. Many of my friends do and my best friend said this is a good place to start. It's not about being a good or bad person. I enjoy different points of view but I see no point in people posting things like "I'll see in the corner and twitch." If that is all that person has to say because they look down on others for not going about their relationship the same way they did they have serious issues. I did nothing to them and I didn't post my question in the engaged section because while there is a date set and a place we are getting married I have not yet gotten a ring. And many people say, well you aren't engaged without a ring. All advice is accepted and listened too as well as appreciated. But to be rude to solely be rude is something different was all I was saying. </div>

JNV825 · July 2012

you'll either be getting married, or getting really drunk at a trashy bar cursing your FI on my one year anniversary

thejucheidea · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ring and cost : I enjoy different points of view but I see no point in people posting things like "I'll see in the corner and twitch." If that is all that person has to say because they look down on others for not going about their relationship the same way they did they have serious issues. I did nothing to them and I didn't post my question in the engaged section because while there is a date set and a place we are getting married I have not yet gotten a ring. And many people say, well you aren't engaged without a ring. All advice is accepted and listened too as well as appreciated. But to be rude to solely be rude is something different was all I was saying.
Posted by livsparks[/QUOTE]

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peekaboo2011 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ring and cost : I do not think getting a dress before a date is set is acceptable, but people do things out of the ordinary all the time. I feel no need to produce an angry response to someone over the internet. I understand what you are saying, but I did really want advice because I tend to not know what to do nor do I not know much about the wedding world. Many of my friends do and my best friend said this is a good place to start. It's not about being a good or bad person. I enjoy different points of view but I see no point in people posting things like "I'll see in the corner and twitch." If that is all that person has to say because they look down on others for not going about their relationship the same way they did they have serious issues. I did nothing to them and I didn't post my question in the engaged section because while there is a date set and a place we are getting married I have not yet gotten a ring. And many people say, well you aren't engaged without a ring. All advice is accepted and listened too as well as appreciated. But to be rude to solely be rude is something different was all I was saying.
Posted by livsparks[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>Alright here, cupcake. Let's examine the facts, shall we?</div><div>
</div><div>1. You are 24. Twenty four. Your BF is 32. Thirty two. That is EIGHT years difference. I don't want to hear you go on and on and on about how mature you are. You're still EIGHT years younger than he is.</div><div>
</div><div>2. This BF of yours has children.</div><div>
</div><div>3. You have been together SIX MONTHS. Not six years. Not six decades. Six MONTHS.</div><div>
</div><div>You are in what we call the honeymoon stage. This happens with ALL relationships. It usually breaks about the six month mark, but it can take longer. You're rushing into this, and personally, I don't think much of him for not realizing it either. He has children. What happens when the honeymoon period is over? Maybe you two realize that you aren't really compatible? And then those kids have to go through another break up or another divorce. Do you really want to put them through that?</div>

kaitlynmichelle · July 2012

Seriously, after 6 months you are considering getting married to this guy? The fact that there are kids involved should be enough to make you slow down. If you really want to spend the rest of your life with this guy, take some more time to just date and get to know him and his kids even better.

If you are willing to spend your life with him right now, there is no reason to not wait a few years to get married. Or at least longer than 6 months.

jemmini6 · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_ring-and-cost?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:9556c006-757a-4a8f-a28d-2bd248d489daPost:dfe5496f-cb8a-4b3d-95fb-833e49d8157b">Re: Ring and cost</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ring and cost : Alright here, cupcake. Let's examine the facts, shall we? 1. You are 24. Twenty four. Your BF is 32. Thirty two. That is EIGHT years difference. I don't want to hear you go on and on and on about how mature you are. You're still EIGHT years younger than he is. 2. This BF of yours has children. 3. You have been together SIX MONTHS. Not six years. Not six decades. Six MONTHS. You are in what we call the honeymoon stage. This happens with ALL relationships. It usually breaks about the six month mark, but it can take longer. You're rushing into this, and personally<strong>, I don't think much of him for not realizing it either. He has children. </strong> What happens when the honeymoon period is over? Maybe you two realize that you aren't really compatible? And then those kids have to go through another break up or another divorce. Do you really want to put them through that?
Posted by peekaboo2011[/QUOTE]

This. It's borderline irresponsible to consider marrying someone after only 6 months when you have children to think about and he should know better, especially at his age. I'm not saying there's not the rare situation that it makes sense, but especially considering your age difference, I can't think of a single good reason not to wait...

motoLyn · July 2012

I think some where in there she mentions they've known each other for a year.... so is it known each other a year the 6 months of dating or known each other a year and that includes the 6 months of dating.

I doubt I'll get a response....

oceana919 · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_ring-and-cost?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:9556c006-757a-4a8f-a28d-2bd248d489daPost:bca6aac4-a88d-452d-8585-a2e3de879e76">Re: Ring and cost</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm just going to sit here in the corner and twitch. Mmmmmkay?
Posted by peekaboo2011[/QUOTE]

SoBe. Everywhere.

LilTexasGal · July 2012

Peek has pretty much said what I wanted to say, but I want to add a few things. You're only 24, are you ready to be a mom? Have you ever considered the fact that BF might just looking for a "mom" for his kids? Being a single dad can be hard, and if he's ready to have a partner to take some responsibility, he could be unintentionally rushing into marriage with you. No, I am not saying that ALL single fathers are just looking for a young wife to help "keep" house with him, but I am saying that it is an angle to consider.

You are going to be a step-mom, and will be inheriting a pre-made family. You have to remember that when there are children involved it isn't all about YOU anymore. It isn't just about what YOU want. This is a lot to take on, especially being only 24. You are still young. 24 is still young. No, not too young to get married, but young none the less. You have time to enjoy this relationship as is, and honestly, you'd be making a wise choice by waiting. Just because you're in love and want to marry him does not mean that you have to or need to get married this soon.

lennonkdc · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_ring-and-cost?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:9556c006-757a-4a8f-a28d-2bd248d489daPost:99532e33-3417-4407-b1d5-70e5eacbfce9">Ring and cost</a>:
[QUOTE] <strong>I am getting engaged and we have already set our wedding date. </strong>
Posted by livsparks[/QUOTE]

<div>If I said "I'm not yet pregnate, but we've set our due date and started buying baby clothes" that would sound crazy right? So do you.</div><div>
</div><div>I'm not gonna touch the rest of the whole bag of crazy you brought with you b/c your 24 and obviously know what you are doing...</div>

Wrkn925 · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_ring-and-cost?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:9556c006-757a-4a8f-a28d-2bd248d489daPost:9e1b15ae-3573-423c-802c-5abb9d3522e3">Re: Ring and cost</a>:
[QUOTE]It seems people on this site are very hostile from time to time...
Posted by livsparks[/QUOTE]

<div>My hostility comes from a dad on his 4th fiancee', all of whom tended to be closer to my age than his.</div><div>
</div><div>There's 13 years between my fiance' and myself, so I'm cool with age gaps. But seriosuly, coming from a product of divorce, slow your roll. Please.</div>

RWS2011 · July 2012

As a single parent, I dated my now FI for 3 1/2 years before getting engaged. I was ready to say yes if he asked about a year before that. I personally think that your BF/FI/whatever is the one who needs to set that boundary about how long he should date before bringing someone into his children's lives full time. However, what some people are trying to express here is that it is also up to you to consider the potential impact on two young lives if you rush into a marriage and then the relationship does not work out.

Many new problems arise when couples move in with one another, and if you have never lived with children that you are responsible for, that is a whole other kind of wake up call. I am not saying this to be hostile or mean. I have been 24 and have known many 24 year olds and many of them are very different by the time they are in their 30's. What you are banking on right now is that as you grow and develop, you will do so in step with your SO. If not, you could be negatively affecting 3 lives. With that, people encourage a longer time (I would argue 1-2 years) of dating to make sure that everything you are feeling in a VERY SHORT amount of time will last.

Wrkn925 · July 2012

And, I want to sympathize. I don't doubt that you love him. I don't doubt that he loves you, and I don't want to question the validity of your relationship or the longevity of you impending marriage. I just want you to CONSIDER slowing down for the kids. They deserve that and they come first. You don't have to tell us you agree with us, just do it.

Vintagelove4 · July 2012

Oh so you are engaged. You don't need a ring to be engaged.

As far as a expesive ring, I guess it just depends on your taste. If you don't wear a ton of jewelry then sure why not have one big priced peice.

dewingedpixie · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_ring-and-cost?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:9556c006-757a-4a8f-a28d-2bd248d489daPost:87b45286-a44c-4481-916d-c1306425d997">Re: Ring and cost</a>:
[QUOTE]So what you all are saying, is that if people do not go about getting married or engaged the exact way you all find suitable they are crazies... interesting... <strong>Because I know many people who went a very traditional way of getting married and many of them are getting divorced.</strong> I asked for advice nor did I get mad at any advice but it's silly to assume that everyone must think just as you do and if they are in love or do not go by the standards of what you think is acceptable they are "crazies." Welcome to the world of crazies, because if you are going to call someone out about being crazy then perhaps you are the crazy one. I simply said people seem to get worked up over nothing. I think it's weird that women go wedding dress shopping before they have boyfriends, and I have seen it. I think planning your wedding since you were a little girl is odd, I never did that. I don't want to be a princess, I simply asked a question. I feel no need to justify how I feel about who I am with, and what would make your love more valid than my love? If you take it personal then that is your issue, I only commented on what I observed. Just like you all have.
Posted by livsparks[/QUOTE]

Before you trample the traditional route please shut your hole, there is a reason its become tradition that reason is because it works.

Trust me I'm a divorced single mom, who should have gone traditional the first time. This time going with my gut and being traditional standing up for myself and my daughter and respecting us as a family has found a relationship that works for both of us.

6 months is nothing, 24 is nothing, trust me I was divorced by your age with a 2 year old in tow, enough debt from that divorce to buy a luxury car, and a load of other personal things that put my experiences at 24 light years ahead of you at 24. At that 24 I had enough under my belt to stop being a smug pretty princess. Before you claim to know how the world works and that you're ready to settle down get to know yourself, the man your dating, his children, and how the world really works a little better. You might surprise yourself in a few years and realise how rash and idiotic you sound right now.

Before you have a man put enough money on your hand to buy a used car please evaluate that this isn't just about you but him and those children too. You aren't just marrying him but those kids as well. Considering your comments about kids I really don't think you're ready to take on that beast.

I could add a lot to that but your above statement, statements about kids, and response to others just makes me irate.

Vintagelove4 · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_ring-and-cost?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:9556c006-757a-4a8f-a28d-2bd248d489daPost:dfe5496f-cb8a-4b3d-95fb-833e49d8157b">Re: Ring and cost</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ring and cost : Alright here, cupcake. Let's examine the facts, shall we? 1. You are 24. Twenty four. Your BF is 32. Thirty two. That is EIGHT years difference. I don't want to hear you go on and on and on about how mature you are. You're still EIGHT years younger than he is. 2. This BF of yours has children. 3. You have been together SIX MONTHS. Not six years. Not six decades. Six MONTHS. You are in what we call the honeymoon stage. This happens with ALL relationships. It usually breaks about the six month mark, but it can take longer. You're rushing into this, and personally, I don't think much of him for not realizing it either. He has children. What happens when the honeymoon period is over? Maybe you two realize that you aren't really compatible? And then those kids have to go through another break up or another divorce. Do you really want to put them through that?
Posted by peekaboo2011[/QUOTE]

Peek has a point. I missed the bit about it only being 6months. Honestly take a step back and wait.

NurseyK · July 2012

At 24 I was in luv, too, also to an older man with 2 kids.

Guess what happened? After that honeymoon stage I got over myself and realized I needed to live more and stop putting up with his daddy issues and excuses.

I'm now an OMH, and very happy that I waited until I could button my own girl pants and hold my own in what I knew I wanted (esp in terms of child rearing).

These girls aren't trying to be mean.... they are just honest. If you're feeling butthurt listen to them with a grain of salt, their advice is legit.

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