HUGE Family...Don't want a circus

Re: HUGE Family...Don't want a circus

• SarahPLiz member

  

  February 2010

  Usually FG or ring bearer. Don't feel pressured to include them though. Just invite them as guests.
   
  If you lurk on these boards long enough, you will see that actually being invited is a big honor for kids.

  
  

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• bablingbrooke member

  

  February 2010

  I was in the same boat--I am one of 17 cousins.  Many are in the same age range as yours.  We just decided not to ask all of them.  We made sure we took crazy photos, danced with them, and paid them attention.  Had we made up jobs for them, not only would it have been a logistical nightmare, they would have known they were given jobs, rather than being honored.

  
  

  In a family as big as ours, we all understood that you can't be included in everything.   We have all sat in the audience at family weddings at one time or another, and no one has held a grudge as a result.  Hopefully that mentality is also true in your family.  

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• Licia&Wayne

  

  February 2010

  Well, if you don't want a huge wedding party, don't include everyone. I think it might benefit you to ask them what they want to do. At 5, flowergirl/ring bearer might sound like the greatest thing ever. At 14? Who knows. It depends on the attitude of the child.
  
  I think it would be best for you to just ask and not stick them with something they don't want.

  
  It's a girl!
  

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• SarahWilber member

  

  February 2010

  Thanks for the ideas! I can't imagine my wedding without kids!
  
  
  

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• duckie1905 member

  

  February 2010

  Not everyone has to have a position.  Also keep in mind that the larger the WP the larger the expense.  Take your budget into account as well.

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• trix1223 member

  

  February 2010

  I'd invite them all, and be sure to have a wonderful photo taken of the B&G with all the kids.  And then just let them enjoy themselves.  It will be more fun for them, and easier for you.
  
  Remember:  that for each person you add to a WP or ceremony, the costs increase exponentially:  gifts, flowers, hair, etc.  That might also help you make up your mind.
  

  "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146

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• SarahWilber member

  

  February 2010

  Great ideas! I think you are right about giving jobs! I want them to be included not my little workers:)
  
  14 could be an usher, the others possible just pictures and attention!
  

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• HisCB

  

  February 2010

  OP, im in the same boat, i posted a similar question here:
  
  http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_many-kiddos
  
  i think we decided to have 1 RB, (my fave nephew) and 1(or 3) flowergirls.
  we realized that the middle aged kids wont feel left out unless the older kids are included also.
  if we decide on only 1 FG it will be the youngest neice (other than the 1 yr old)
  
  my sister who is 11 will be a jr BM or train carrier, havent decided which yet.

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