Bridal Shower Invites

ErinB824 · December 2010

Hi,

Due to distance the MOB and MOG are both throwing separate bridal showers. Is it proper to invite the other side's family to the shower then? In other words, does the MOB invite the groom's family to the shower even though she knows they will not be able to make it and are throwing their own shower? ...and visa versa? Also, if you send an invitation regardless, what wording would you use to express that you understand they might not be able to attend?

Your help is GREATLY appreciated!!

Erin

kcscejal · December 2010

The bridesmaids and mothers should be invited to both.

Beachy730 · December 2010

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[QUOTE]Hi, Due to distance the MOB and MOG are both throwing separate bridal showers. Is it proper to invite the other side's family to the shower then? In other words, does the MOB invite the groom's family to the shower even though she knows they will not be able to make it and are throwing their own shower? ...and visa versa? Also, if you send an invitation regardless, what wording would you use to express that you understand they might not be able to attend? Your help is GREATLY appreciated!! Erin
Posted by ErinB824[/QUOTE]

I think inviting the mother is one thing, and maybe the grandmother if you wanted, but I wouldn't invite the whole family. The point of having different showers is to accommodate the different families in the area. And I would never include something saying you understand if they can't come. I would take that as you saying you didn't really want me to come but felt you had to invite me.

ErinB824 · December 2010

Thank you! This is very helpful!

marissa_claire · December 2010

Ditto the PPs. I had a number of people that wanted to send presents when they weren't able to attend my shower, so I would feel bad sending those invites and them reading it as "oh I need to send one more present."

hlq2011 · December 2010

My MOH, my aunt, is hosting a shower for me in Massachusetts. She plans to invite FMIL and FSILs (who are my bridesmaids), even though they probably won't come, as a nice gesture. Who knows; maybe they'll even make the trip.