So, as I'm writing this I'm feeling deflated from the last wave of wedding planning (May 15, 2010 is the big day). I just want some feedback from you all, maybe I can gain a different perspective to how I should handle this situation.
My MOH and bridesmaids in L.A. are hosting a shower for me tomorrow (4/10/10) and about a month ago sent evites out to announce it. About a week ago, my mom and my aunt (her sister-in-law) had a disagreement over something that didn't involve me. My mom flew out to Vegas (where I live) and drove out with me to L.A. for my bridal shower. My mom mentioned that there might be a little tension between her and my aunt because of what happened, but that she was still supposed to be coming to my shower.
So today as my bridal party and my mom are running around doing errands and I am doing the same, I ask my mom if she's heard from my aunt and she says no and she asks me if I had heard anything and I say no as well. So I check my email and it says I have an update on Evite. I check it and my aunt has posted that she "unfortunately cannot make it. have a great time. hugs and kisses"
No phone call. No text. No email. Not even a message on Facebook.
The part that gets me is that I could see if she called and said that the flights were not looking good (she used to work for the airlines and flies standby so it would be understandable) but she didn't even have the decency to CALL!! Not to mention that she didn't notify the hosts. Remind you, my shower is TOMORROW!!
Also, I am an only child. She has always said to me that "you're my favorite niece, and it doesn't matter that you are my only niece" and on top of that she gave me my first tea set as a child and what is my shower themed - tea party. She's the only aunt I have so for her to do this, it hurt my spirit. But, I will say this - she didn't come to my high school graduation because she thought I was going to move in with her and my grandmother (to go to school in Indiana) and when I decided not to move, she decided not to see me graduate.
I just felt that after this evening, and letting my anger subside that it may be best to tell her that I don't want her at my wedding. Because to me, you can't even pick up the phone to say you aren't coming to your only niece's bridal shower?! How small of someone. She's missed out on other important events in my life because of decisions she's made out of being selfish; I'd figure I'll make this decision for her and save myself the drama and the possible hurt at my wedding.
What would you ladies do in a situation like this?