I wasn't sure where else to go to ask this. We've been invited to friends' parents' beach home for a weekend with the group of good friends. Many live out of state and are traveling for the weekend. It was another friend in the group who said last year that they needed to have the group. Not polite, but if you know him it's not out of character and certainly not meant to be rude. Anyway...
The friends who are hosting notoriously don't serve enough food. We are the only friends who live near them so have experienced this several times. We went one weekend several years ago to the beach house when the parents were there too and my husband and I nearly starved. Quantity wise it was what two adults would eat and it was to serve six adults and a toddler. In addition, they served strange food that weekend and often do. All of the other people coming except one are hungry guys who eat a lot. The house is in a remote location so you can't just run out for more food, order in, or simply go out to eat. There will also be a few kids so we can't really go out for dinner with their bedtime.
I discussed with my husband volunteering to bring food we know everyone eats that's easy and doesn't take prep-work in their kitchen. I emailed the wife last week that my husband and I were thinking we'd bring hamburgers, sausages, hotdogs and all of the fixings for everyone. I didn't hear back, which isn't unusual. My husband received an email today from the husband to all invited that said something about them getting everything and people giving them the money for everything. The problem is (A) they won't get enough, (B) it won't be stuff most of us eat, (C) there won't be anywhere for us to go to get more food, (D) it would be rude for us to then bring this real food for just us to make sure we don't starve. I don't want to be hiding snacks in our bags to sneak so we don't starve. I think it's more than generous that for 8 adults and 2 young children we've offered to bring 24 half pound hamburgers, 6 pounds of sausage, and several packs of kosher hotdogs with all accompaniments.
How do we politely force the issue? The guys coming are well over six feet athletes who eat a lot and quite frankly I'm not up for another weekend of being so hungry I'm lightheaded. We're hoping to send an email tomorrow before others respond "okay." What should it say and should it be a reply to all or just the husband. It's my husband's best friend but he's not willing to say our real reason in wanting to bring food. We want to find the least rude way of saying this is what we are doing. As much as it's not correct I'm okay with it. These are the same people who on other occasions when asked what can we bring have told us dessert then only fed it to their children, not everyone, when it was brought for everyone. I always make sure we have more than enough food when we host them and they take seconds too.
Thanks in advance for your help!