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What have you obsessed over the most?

Our counttdown is less than two months - May 30! My fiance and I were sitting around laughing at some of the things we found ourselves obsessing over during the wedding process.

Mine: The Escort/Placecards cards. I serioulsy found myself up at night worrying about what they would look like, where they would be placed, etc... This week I have decided they will be on ribbon on a giant wine barrell (we're getting married at a winery)

His: Inviations. He's a designer and has been obsessed with our invites for months, from font and type to caligraphy and color. They arrive on Tuesday! (late, we know, but as the printer was out of the paper he chose, do you think he would have chosen a diff one - nope waited for the paper to come in!)

What have you found you and your other halves obsessing over about the wedding?
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Re: What have you obsessed over the most?

  • Everything! I feel like I'm obsessing about everything, specifically the little tiny details like who will bring the lighter for the unity candle and where will I put my veil after the ceremony lol. It will be a long 4 months if I continue to obsess about EVERYTHING :)
  • I haven't even thought of the tiny things, like where my veil will go! I'm sure as soon as I have the escort cards done, I'll find something else!

    And, maybe the best man brings the lighter????
  • good idea on the best man! My officiant actually said she was going to bring it, so I just have a note to remind her as we get closer
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    [QUOTE]Our counttdown is less than two months - May 30! My fiance and I were sitting around laughing at some of the things we found ourselves obsessing over during the wedding process. Mine: The Escort/Placecards cards. <strong><font color="#ff0000">I serioulsy found myself up at night worrying </font></strong>about what they would look like, where they would be placed, etc... This week I have decided they will be on ribbon on a giant wine barrell (we're getting married at a winery) His: Inviations. He's a designer and has been obsessed with our invites for months, from font and type to caligraphy and color. They arrive on Tuesday! (late, we know, but as the printer was out of the paper he chose, do you think he would have chosen a diff one - nope waited for the paper to come in!) What have you found you and your other halves obsessing over about the wedding?
    Posted by agoldhammer[/QUOTE]

    THIS! This is totally me but my most stressful thing is the centerpieces. I have changed my mind like 10x and nothing felt quite perfect yet until I saw the centerpiece at Easter lunch today. I feel like a million pounds have been lifted off my shoulders.
  • I spent way too much time worrying about whether the lights in the paper lanterns would be bright enough!
  • Lol...I love this post. Glad i'm not the only one...
  • Thats funny about the paper lanterns, I obsessed about that part too, whether to do batteries, or the throwwies, my fiance wants to know what I'll obsess about after we get married, most likely babies lol
  • Invitations.  Ugh.  I am a rational woman and I dislike spending significant amounts of time obsessing over PAPER.
  • money!  i cannot stop thinking about how we are going to finish paying for the rest of the wedding and the honeymoon (all of which have deposits paid down...).  i know we will get it done, but thinking about it (which is always) gives me an ulcer.

    also, the invitations and the little things like who will light all of the 1000 candles at reception, who will coordinate with the dj and caterer's to make sure the timing is right, who will clean up after, who will do this who will do that, etc. 
  • I'm most obsessed about being the center of attention.  I may not be "shy" but I do not like being the focal point of 200 people.  FI had to remind me last night that all the people that are going to be there are family and friends.  Also that by the time the actual day gets there all I have to do is have fun.  Oh and not micromanage.  Can I help that my ideas are fabulous and I want to be sure everything looks like the picture in my head? Lol.
  • Money!! Definetely!! I have obsessed about everything, and all I talk about is the wedding and all the thjings that still need to be done!! I have 3 months left, and so much left to do. I am at the mailbox everyday, waiting for reply cards! I bought a dress that I kinda liked, and then after I purchased it, I found one I liked soooo much better, and I can't stop thinking about it. I have changed my mind too many times about centrepieces, and now I am obsessing about how to wear my hair. Should I wear it up, down with a veil, in a side ponytail with curls and no veil? Ugh! I am so excited for our big day, but can't wait to feel sane again!! Oh, yeah, and my MIL is complaining to EVERYONE who will listen about how much we are spending on the wedding!!
  • I was WAY too obsessed with my invitations....I made them all by myself, (I've never made an invitation in my life), with no help except when it came to putting them together. I was so anal I watched over my sisters shoulder while she tried to help me! She was such a good sport!
    Now the obsession is little things, like the ceremony songs timing with the bridal party walk, and my entrance, thinking about if I'll be a complete cry baby or not,  who is going to man the guestbook, and thinking way too much about the weather! Less than 3 weeks to go!
  • Looking beautiful and trying to be more relaxed about everything.
  • I obsessed the most over invitations...not sure why, but I was just looking for something that was different. I ended up going with a traditonal style on pearl ecru cardstock. I was surprised it took me so long to pick one out! At least 3 months.. ha.
  • I guess money is a big one but for me since we are DIY most of the wedding, including the music it's who is going to run the music while we are all busy doing toasts and having dinner and what not!?!
    Other than that just little things like who is going to put all 120 chairs loops on and how they will turn out:)
    So excited now though, only like 3 weeks!!!!
  • MY HAIR.

    Omg. Up? Down? Curls? Waves?

    I am able to make quick decisions on everything else yet this I have been worrying about for 9 months! I want to look special, but like myself. I want something that will hold up, but not some prom/pageant ridiculousness . Sigh. Ponytail anyone? ha.
  • "My mother in law to be. I spend more time making sure she doesent go overboard with anything, she doesent incorporate anything new, she doesent invite any last minute people and she doesent forget that this isnt her wedding...and no, she isnt paying a dime for anything."

    I'm not the only one!

    I try to remain as laid back as possible- it helps that my full time job is event coordination; I have an idea of how much time each vendor needs, how much things should cost, etc. But when we get to her house, the wedding is all she can talk about. Literally. She can't talk about anything else. The wedding is four months away and I think I've got things under control, that is until she starts badgering me about the most minute details. I'm sure she's just excited and wants to be sure I don't forget anything, but seriously- gimme' a break!

    Also, I'm weirdly obsessed about the tiniest details- specifically decor. Our site has high, wooden beamed ceilings ... how do I work with that and not have the place feel empty?! Ahh!

    Thank you ladies... I don't feel crazy anymore. :-)
  • So far the biggest that I freaked out over was the dresses for my Bridesmaids! Everyone was cool with the original dress picked out, then one girl came and attacked me about it 2 weeks later. AGH! If you had a problem with the dress speak up! How many times did I have to say it that day! Gosh!
  • Cake toppers! Seriously. I consider myself to be a rational person and I usually don't bother with silly details. I wanted a vintage topper but didn't want to pay an arm and a leg. After three months, I finally found one on Etsy...and my sanity.
  • I am a week out...and I thought I had problems falling asleep...now its EVERY little detail that doesnt really matter at all.  I think of what I still have to do (even though it is just the place cards and pack)...but I think of little things we have to remember to get..even thoguh I know I will forget come the morning! If I dont get some sleep...I am going to be a cranky bride!
  • Our wedding is 2 months away and I am completely stressed.  We have been engaged since 2008 and I got (or so I thought) all the big things out of the way. There was a good 5 month span where I did not have to do anything. When people tell you its all the little things that will stress you out, they are 100% CORRECT! I find I am stressing over everything these days. I feel like I want to get as much as I possibly can done now so that by the time the big day is here I don't have too much on my plate. Right now I am stressing over my shoes because I have a fitting in 2 weeks and I need them.  I also find I am stressing over my jewelry, hair and makeup! Our biggest stress item however was our invitations.  I thought they were going to be sooo simple, I mean you just pick out a style you like and that's that. WRONG. I spent a good month on them, going over colors, wording, proofs, having something wrong with the final invitation, having them reprinted, etc. I felt like a huge weight was lifted off my shoulder the moment I dropped them off in the mailbox. I wish I could just fast forward to the big day and then play it in slow motion.  This planning has taken over my life.
  • I've obsessed over the outfits for the wedding party and the music.  Found the right outfits for everybody and now only a few have bought them. The wedding is in June and they've known about the outfits since January. Probably not a huge deal in the long run, but it bugs me and I've been obsessing over everyone getting their outfits.

    Then the music.  I spent weeks trying to find the perfect version of one of my fave songs to walk to.  Finally found it and now I'm not sure if it's the right one or not.  Also, not quite sure if the song I picked to dance to with my grandfather is the perfect song. And yes, I'm obsessing over the music that will appear in the slideshow!  I want the music to be perfect so it compliments the mood.
  • a bitch that is hitting on my future husband !! on every occassion she hits on him!! I just don't want her to ruin my wedding and she needs to be there because she is a wife of my fiance's best friend...any suggestions how to take care of her? :)
  • EVERYTHING!  I get one little thought in my head about the flowers, or a song I want to be played, or my jewelry, or how will the cake table look... once I get these thoughts, I obsessively google everything imaginable! I have multiple power point presentations of my ideas, and tons of spreadsheets with links to where I've found the best deals. The worst is when I try to go to sleep at night and my brain just won't shut off! I continue having these crazy thoughts about the smallest details that prevent me from sleeping!
     I'm definitely an 'OCD' bride! haha. I just keep trying to tell myself that it is just one day! I just hope everything comes together as I have imagined it! I can't wait! Only 168 days to go!
  • Music is a big one for me, the overall appearence of the tables, and making sure we had people cleaning up dishes and filling water glasses, etc...we're sort of on our own in a way because the loaction only provides tables and chairs so there has been a LOT to think about!

    Congratulations, by the way. I'm May 22nd so just a week before you! :-)
  • vsahmvsahm member
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    I was obsessed over finding the right venue... Once I did, everything fell into place! I hired an amazing wedding coordinator, made all my decisions in about an hour and a half, and now all I have to do is wait for the big day... Although I am a little obsessed with seeing my dress. I can't wait until it gets here!
    m/c at 7w3d on 11/9/11
  • The dress!  Lost hours of sleep on that one.  
  • I'm getting married too on 5/30 so less than 2 mos.  I guess I"m obsessing most about guest count and table arrangements. I overinvited guests. So I'm worried I will get too many yeses. Especially when and invite comes back w/ more than you put on the original invitation.  My parents are paying for reception part and food, but I don't want to blow the budget. Also table arrangements.   who sits where and make sure all are happy. MY mom wants one thing I want another so we butt heads a bit
  • This was very therapeutic, I feel like I could have written almost any of the above posts!  Nice to know we're not alone with our obsessions!

    For me, it shifted over the course of the planning. Early on, I was obsessed with getting organized, getting the to-do list figured out, due dates, etc. Very worried about forgetting something or being late with something.

    Mid-planning, it was invitations. Oh boy. Those #%^# invitations.

    Now that I'm 3 weeks out, it's RSVP cards. Specifically, the people who haven't RSVPd yet. Because I can't finish the seating chart. Not that I wanted a seating chart in the first place, but my mom and reception hall manager bullied me into it. #$%& seating chart... uh oh, I can feel the crazy creeping up on me, better change the subject...

    My other obsession at the moment is whether I'll remember to bring everything on the wedding day.  I have so many lists it's not even funny. Rehearsal dinner list, wedding morning list, dressing room list, honeymoon list, list of everything to bring HOME from the reception, and on and on...

    I'm looking forward to getting to "the day" so I can shut this all off and enjoy myself! Whatever isn't done at that point, or goes wrong, too bad!

    Sarah
  • We are exactly three months out, and we got enough done ahead of time, that I haven't been too obsessive.  Talk to me in a month, however, once we have to start having the follow up meetings with the people we booked a year ago (dj, photog, florist,cake etc.).  We're having a big life upheaval besides the marriage (i just got into a school on the otehr side of the country, so he is job searching and i am prepping for an epic move to happen one month after the wedding) so i haven't had time to stress about the wedding haha.

    That being said, I have obsessed endlessly about how to wear my hair.  Which is slightly embarassing.
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