sex life drama!!!

Re: sex life drama!!!

• NcsuPsych member

  

  January 2012

  I would suggest talking to your doctor and possibly seeing a sex therapist.
  
  

  

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• achiduck member

  

  January 2012

  I think you need to see a therapist that specializes in sexual issues. A friend of mine had some unfortunate things happen to her in her past and went. She said it was hard, but so helpful.

  
  

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• emarston1 member

  

  January 2012 edited January 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_sex-life-drama?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:8b61fde9-11ae-4601-bbe5-7fbd31b47b15Post:4f83feb5-0ead-4b4a-9f3e-0054ce8b057f">Re: sex life drama!!!</a>:
  [QUOTE]I would suggest talking to your doctor and possibly seeing a sex therapist.
  Posted by NcsuPsych[/QUOTE]
  This.  I wouldn't be asking for help from strangers.  Talk to your doctor to see if it's medical and you may want to seek counseling.

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• redheadfsu member

  

  January 2012

  Ditto pps. We are not doctors (medical or therapists). When you say stuff happened, do you mean medical or traumatic/emotional stuff? But a good place to start  (for both or either):
  
  1. Talk to your doctor (to make sure that it is't a medical issue). As new medications or other things can effect libido.
  
  2. You both should talk to a sex therapist. (possibly separate & together).

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• egeurts

  

  January 2012

  Eat lots of pumpkin seeds and oysters. 

  

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• mrsthoser

  

  January 2012

  Definitely talk to a doctor and/or therapist.

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• ChristineNB

  

  January 2012 edited January 2012

  I would talk to a medical doctor first to make sure there is no physical reason or medicine side effect to be causing this.  If that was not the case, then I would recommend you see a therapist.  Hopefully you have been open and honest with your significant other about what is going on and made it clear it's not him, as he's probably wondering if it's his lack of experience.

  

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• seesawgirl member

  

  January 2012

  I agree with PP's, you need to talk to a Dr about this. 

  That being said, if its more of a problem with your FI not knowing what he's doing (which is what I would assume, since you came to a wedding forum to talk to women about this)...then its up to you to speak up and teach him. Good lovers are not born that way, they had a partner (or partners) that said "Do this, not that."  If he's just fumbling around, and you're not being satisfied, then I can see why it would be hard for you to get in the mood. Just be kind, and patient, give him direction. 

  
  

  If this is more of a physical, emotional, chemical thing...can't help you out there, other than to say look at your health, and what you're eating and drinking. If you're not getting enough fluids and become dehydrated, that can hinder things in obvious ways. 

  
  

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