What I've learned from Miss Manners

Carson386 · August 2012

A list of a few things from my Miss Manner's book:

-Don't abuse your bridesmaids
-A wedding is not a show
-Don't worry about having an even number of BMs and GMs, they can be uneven
-Weddings are not an opportunity to boss people around
-It's not MY day, it's OUR day (including the guests invited)
-The bride and groom have no obligation to find baby sitters for children that are not invited.

That's all I have for now. Anyone that hasn't read this book and wants some good advice and a bit of comical relief should definitely read it.

funandfreckles · August 2012

Anyone that hasn't read this book and wants some good advice and a bit of comical relief should definitely read it.

You've mentioned that a time or two.

Also, it took you reading Miss Manners to learn this stuff?

Carson386 · August 2012

I know it's commonly known around the boards but, have you een hw many questions are about this stuff? I'm not reading to to learn anything specifically. I just think it's a great resource if you have the time to read it. How many people have asked about even numbers on each side? Or about finding sitters for kids? A LOT!

Ali092011 · August 2012

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[QUOTE]A list of a few things from my Miss Manner's book:<strong> -Don't abuse your bridesmaids</strong> -A wedding is not a show -Don't worry about having an even number of BMs and GMs, they can be uneven -Weddings are not an opportunity to boss people around -It's not MY day, it's OUR day (including the guests invited) -The bride and groom have no obligation to find baby sitters for children that are not invited. That's all I have for now. Anyone that hasn't read this book and wants some good advice and a bit of comical relief should definitely read it.
Posted by Carson386[/QUOTE]

Don't abuse your bridemaids, aka your closest, dearest friends? Glad they included that in an etiquette book... <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-undecided.gif" border="0" alt="Undecided" title="Undecided" />

andra loves andre · August 2012

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[QUOTE]I know it's commonly known around the boards but, have you een hw many questions are about this stuff? I'm not reading to to learn anything specifically. I just think it's a great resource if you have the time to read it. How many people have asked about even numbers on each side? Or about finding sitters for kids? A LOT!
Posted by Carson386[/QUOTE]

<div>I'm glad you're enjoying the book, and I fully agree with the tips that you posted. Those have been a huge priority for me!</div>

Carson386 · August 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to What I've learned from Miss Manners : Don't abuse your bridemaids, aka your closest, dearest friends? Glad they included that in an etiquette book...
Posted by Ali092011[/QUOTE]

I think it's really pathetic that they had to have a whole page dedicated to it. I wish the bride from the last wedding I was in saw that. Bridesmaids shouldn't be required to assemble invitations, favors, or anything. The BM offering to help is one thing, but the bride telling a BM that she has to miss 2 days of college classes to help assemble things is completely wrong.

Girlie1030 · August 2012

I'm pretty sure Beanie's seen more than a few of those threads. But people don't search threads before they ask their question for the 1000th time so you posting excerpts from the book really isn't going to help either.

Carson386 · August 2012

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[QUOTE]I'm pretty sure Beanie's seen more than a few of those threads. But people don't search threads before they ask their question for the 1000th time so you posting excerpts from the book really isn't going to help either.
Posted by Girlie1030[/QUOTE]

Sorry. I won't post them if it's annoying. I was just trying to help out anyone that may have any questions about those things.

Carson386 · August 2012

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[QUOTE]Anyone that hasn't read this book and wants some good advice and a bit of comical relief should definitely read it. You've mentioned that a time or two.<strong> Also, it took you reading Miss Manners to learn this stuff?</strong>
Posted by funandfreckles[/QUOTE]

I knew this stuff before. It seems like a lot of people don't though.

Girlie1030 · August 2012

It could be helpful Carson, but like I said most people don't search before they post (or so it seems). Either that or they think their situation is so super special that nobody else could possibly have asked the same question.

Ali092011 · August 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: What I've learned from Miss Manners : I think it's really pathetic that they had to have a whole page dedicated to it. I wish the bride from the last wedding I was in saw that. Bridesmaids shouldn't be required to assemble invitations, favors, or anything. The BM offering to help is one thing, but <strong>the bride telling a BM that she has to miss 2 days of college classes to help assemble things is completely wrong.</strong>
Posted by Carson386[/QUOTE]

o_0

That is horrifying. I have the feeling that the people who act like that are <em>not</em> the ones that seek out etiquette books and ask for advice. I have met very few people in my life who have recognized their lack of manners/etiquette knowledge and sought to correct it. It's always the people who were raised right and know how to treat people properly who are interested in etiquette. I mean, do you really think if you had shoved Miss Manners under the nose of the bride you mentioned above, she would have read it and said, "I'm not supposed to treat you like slaves? Oops! The more you know!" and stopped acting like an entitled horse's ass?

Nickivegan · August 2012

Carson, darling, we don't really care.

specialk84 · August 2012

Do you work for Judith Martin's publisher or something? You seem to be obsessed with this book, and it's getting old.

Carson386 · August 2012

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[QUOTE]Do you work for Judith Martin's publisher or something? You seem to be obsessed with this book, and it's getting old.
Posted by specialk84[/QUOTE]

No and sorry, I won't post anything about it anymore. I just thought it would be helpful to some people since a lot of people ask questions about these types of things. I'm done posting anything about that book.

PetalPockets2012 · August 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: What I've learned from Miss Manners : No and sorry, I won't post anything about it anymore. I just thought it would be helpful to some people since a lot of people ask questions about these types of things. <strong>I'm done posting anything about that book.</strong>
Posted by Carson386[/QUOTE]

Thank you.

Carson386 · August 2012

No it's fine, I get it's annoying and I won't post about it anymore like I said.

LeiselEB · August 2012

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[QUOTE]No it's fine, I get it's annoying and I won't post about it anymore like I said.
Posted by Carson386[/QUOTE]

<div>It's cool to talk about the book if you like it - it's just that you started a couple new threads about the same thing, ya know? I'd say to just talk about it during a chat thread, but there haven't really been any the past few days. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-undecided.gif" border="0" alt="Undecided" title="Undecided" /></div>

melb2013 · August 2012

Carson, it's an awesome book. Everyone else, relax. Does it really matter if someone posts a couple more threads every once in a while? Not really.

ladyomnipotent · August 2012

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[QUOTE]Carson, it's an awesome book. Everyone else, relax. Does it really matter if someone posts a couple more threads every once in a while? Not really.
Posted by melb2013[/QUOTE]
Agreed. Plus, people make chat and NWR topics all the time. NBD.

I absolutely love that book. It's so entertaining and informative. I feel like I understood the true spirit of a wedding after reading it.

musicalcanadianbride · August 2012

Carson, if you want to post in a PUBLIC forum about your new favourite book, then go right ahead. No-one is obliged to read your posts if they are not interested in what you might have to say.

shanateall · August 2012

Wow people are harsh. You titled it to let them know what was in your post. Titles generally are an indication of what is going to follow. If you don't want to read about Miss Manners.... then don't read the one titled "What I've learned from Miss Manners"! Post whatever you would like. And if people don't like it they shouldn't click on your post.

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