Hey all! I usually just lurk here but first I would like to say thank you because I have learnt a ton. I was clueless about wedding related etiquette before I came on here.
My question is related to getting a head count for open bar. We have put a deposit on our venue and they told us that closer to the day we need to let them know how many people will be taking advantage of the open bar so they could charge us accordingly. Obviously we aren't going to count people under 19 because they can't legally drink but how do you figure out for everyone else? Should we just assume that everyone over 19 will be drinking and pay for everyone? We have lots of elderly family members attending and FI says a lot of his huge family doesn't drink they are all OOT and I have never met the majority if them He says we should put a check box on the RSVP along with the meal selection so that people can let us know if they'll take advantage of the open bar. I told him I think that seems a bit tacky?
What did you guys do? Did you just assume everyone would use it and pay for everyone?
BTW sorry if the spaces disappear, I'm writing this from my phone