Ok, my wedding is in September, but it is in CT and all my family lives in Maine. So my mother asked for a date in May to throw a shower for me. When she started the planning she was sooo excited. And then told me it was also my grandfather's 79th birthday and we would do an all in one party! Huh?! Old guys and bridal showers?
So I asked the two BM's on Maine to control my mother and assist. All I wanted was a tea party in the yard with family and friends. That's all.
I don't want to sound ungrateful or like a bridezilla but... the whole drive to Maine I was telling my Fiance that I wanted to buy all the girls flowers for throwing the party, I would buy the lead BM a bigger wedding gift for throwing the party... he told me to hold off and wait until after the shower.
My brother drives me out to the beach at this semi-fancy inn where the shower was. We had a little party, about 12 women attended. There were hor derves and desserts that my mother brought (she was a baker a few years ago). And we all sat in silence. My dad's family didn't talk to anyone. My mom's family was tight lipped. And my BMs and friends sat in a corner away from everyone.
After 1 hour and fifteen minutes, guests were leaving. My fiance was supposed to meet us there and meet more of my family and they left before he showed up. My aunt walked right by him, in the room, and left and didn't say hello.
When I opened gifts, no one made the bouquet from the ribbons. I asked my brothers new girlfriend about the planning and she said 1 BM bought pink and green napkins...those were the decorations. The other BM bought 2 vases of flowers and then took them home, didn't even offer them to me. Games were suggested and shot down. It was supposed to be a nice tea party and 1 of the BMs shows up late and in jeans and a sweater. Everyone else was dressed nice.
I feel like they didn't do anything! My mother paid for the place and the food. They brought napkins and flowers. Total BM effort: $20. This is supposed to be the ONLY shower I have for my wedding and I am not worth more that an hour of your time. I drove 4 hours, 7 with traffic and that's it! I love these girls but seriously! My brother's GF, who is not in the wedding made more of an effort and brought food than my bridesmaids did. I feel like they do not deserve any extra gift for my shower. I feel short changed for not getting the same enjoyments that other brides get, all because my shower was an inconvenience for them. Thoughtless.
Sorry for the novel, I am still upset about this. I put in 200% for all my girls, birthday cards, Christmas cards/gifts, baby presents, dive to Maine for all their events and they put together a bridal puddle rather than a bridal shower.