OK, FI has 4 GM and I have 3 BM (one is MOH, but the whole title thing is another post!) and 1 jr BM. I am debating to ask one of my girlfriends or FSIL to be a bridesmaid. Girlfriend and I have been friends for about ten years and she listened to me rave about FI then and kept insisting I tell him how I feel (I did, years later he proposed;) Anywho, she and I do not talk on a regular basis but maintain contact.
FSIL and I have a good relationship and she is happy her brother and I are getting married. My concern about this scenario: recently, FMIL accused me of some really weird things (i.e. digging up the yard and burying things in it which caused her to have a bad time @ work- I do not dabble in whoodoo, voodoo, or anything of the sort!) and then said I was not welcomed at her house. Well, I have a good idea she spoke of these things with FSIL and I am really concerned as to how this may impact upon me having her in the wedding party. FI says to not worry about it because FSIL is giving us an e-party because she is happy and, if I want FSIL in the wedding I should ask. The other thought is to have FSIL read scripture at the wedding to include her without titles. I am just wondering if having her in the wedding party will make me paranoid FMIL is telling her crazy things. BTW- FMIL asked FI on Christmas eve if I was coming to her house for Christmas..mind you this was after she said I am not welcome to her house. To date, she has not directly said I am invited to her house and I have not been there. Believe me, I could go on.....
Thanks for reading...I really needed to get all of that out & more!