I just got engaged, but it will be my 3rd marriage, and my fiance's second. He did the big wedding thing before, but my first 2 were very small (one not even in a church!) mostly because we were so young and so poor. Now, I'm in a much better place both emotionally and financially, and I want to have the big wedding I never got. My question, though, is this: is it forwned upon because it's not my first, or his first either?