Fundraising

Re: Fundraising

• JadziaDax member

  

  September 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_fundraising?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:5Discussion:db198164-a94c-4de7-be8b-4642f4e6609cPost:31a97c42-969a-4d94-8409-5c3274b16c39">Fundraising</a>:
  [QUOTE]I do a lot of volunteering for different animal causes. I was thinking about putting out a collection box or dish at each table. The proceeds would go to a local organization. Am I asking for to much? Yes we will have a cash bar because we're paying for the whole thing.
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  I think your guests paying for your wedding gift and their own alcohol to drink at the wedding is enough. Whenever I see the word "fundraiser" come up on these sties, I automatically think Tacky..

  

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• AdeleDazeem member

  

  September 2010

  If you want raise money for these charities, do it on its own day with its own mission.  Your wedding day ain't the time or the place.  I mean it.

  
  

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• trix1223 member

  

  September 2010

  This is just an awful idea.  I donate regularly to causes that are important to me.  And I encourage others to donate regularly to causes that are important to them.  But why should I donate to a cause that is important to you, but not necessarily to me?
  
  I have to admit:  we generally give a check for a wedding gift.  If I saw this at your wedding, I'd be very inclined take my check out of the card and add a note telling you that I've donated to MY favorite charity as my wedding gift to you.  
  
  Your wedding shouldn't become a fundraiser for any reason.  And frankly, I'm not crazy about the cash bar either.  To do that PLUS fundraise makes it even more egregious.

  "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146

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• danieliza1127 member

  

  September 2010

  Yes you're asking too much.  Your intentions are good, but you can't and shouldn't try to force your guests to donate money to the causes that you love.  If you want to raise money for charity, that's fine, but don't do it at your wedding where your guests will feel obligated to give.  They will find it rude and tacky.

  
  

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• aerinpegadrak member

  

  September 2010

  Your guests shouldn't have to open their wallets at an event you are hosting.  Not to pay for their drinks, not to donate to charity, not to dance with the bride and groom, nothing.  If you go through with both the fundraising and the cash bar, that is all anyone will remember about your wedding.
  
  If you like, you can spread via word of mouth that you'd prefer a donation to said charity over wedding gifts.  But that's only if people ask what you'd like.  That's about as far as you can take it without majorly stepping on some toes.
  

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