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  • elanniselannis member
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    edited December 2011
    My first reaction is I kinda think it was a good idea if he thought you weren't ready. To me it shows that he's putting thought into it and doesn't want to rush into anything. He wants to make sure you have a stable foundation before building the house, ya know? It was probably easier to give the ring back so he wouldn't be distracted with it, so he could focus on repairing the relationship you two have.

    Just my first thoughts.
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  • Elle1036Elle1036 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_boyfriend-bought-engagement-ring-but-never-received?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:636620e0-1a33-4dba-a645-346c5106737dPost:910a9545-4913-4d05-8b7c-19275c353c00">Re: Boyfriend bought an engagement ring but I never received it...</a>:
    [QUOTE]My first reaction is I kinda think it was a good idea if he thought you weren't ready. To me it shows that he's putting thought into it and doesn't want to rush into anything. He wants to make sure you have a stable foundation before building the house, ya know? It was probably easier to give the ring back so he wouldn't be distracted with it, so he could focus on repairing the relationship you two have. Just my first thoughts.
    Posted by elannis[/QUOTE]
    Agree. But did you know he had purchased the original ring? If so, I think it was kind of crappy of him to return it without talking to you first.
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_boyfriend-bought-engagement-ring-but-never-received?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:636620e0-1a33-4dba-a645-346c5106737dPost:61d4f0a0-6c6b-4f5b-8218-6411961e01bd">Boyfriend bought an engagement ring but I never received it...</a>:
    [QUOTE]I have been together with my boyfriend for 2 years now. Last year he bought an engagement ring but ended up returning it. I just found out about this because he is looking to buy me an engagement ring again. He says he returned the ring because he felt like we were not ready and needed to work on things before we were engaged. That was a little over a year ago and we are in a much better place now then we were then. I just do not know how to feel about him buying it and returning it even though he does want to marry me now and always has.
    Posted by LariV[/QUOTE]

    Is he your boyfriend or your fiance?

    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_outdoor-weddings_destination-wedding-island?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:666Discussion:63828d08-d9ab-42e1-bbaf-416a6b2c5685Post:cd768695-b00a-4bc5-96fa-1ac2133427c2">Destination wedding-island</a>:
    [QUOTE]Hi, Im wondering if anyone knows of any destination weddings (Island) or companies? I am wanting to get married this summer and just my fiance and I go to a nice island and stay in a hut and have a private ceremony. If anyone has some ideas please let me know Thanks!!
    Posted by LariV[/QUOTE]

    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-theme-boards_destination-weddings_choosing-destination-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Theme%20BoardsForum:54Discussion:10b24498-c95f-49d6-a933-b82e0681ac97Post:7ebad43f-ff3c-48eb-a118-a87561b92e91">Choosing a destination for the wedding.....</a>:
    [QUOTE]Okay guys my fiance and I are currently looking for a island/resort to get married at. We plan on it just being us two & hoping we can get a wedding package. We are flexible with the date. Since it is just us two we would like the place to have a photographer and video recorder. I am looking into something like Petit St. Vincent. I was just wondering if any of ya'll have or are going to have a DW where is it? Also is there a wedding package? Please let me know I am feeling excited and a little over whelmed looking for the perfect place to get married :)  Thanks!! Lari
    Posted by LariV[/QUOTE]


    P.S. Maybe he returned the ring when he found out that you were planning a wedding back in August. 
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  • stacybeanstacybean member
    Second Anniversary 10 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Some guys think that they are expected to buy a ring and propose because its "the next step" or because they are "supposed to" which may have been how your BF felt at the time. It's good he realized that he wasn't ready so that he could propose when he really means it. Glad to hear that things are going better than ever! :)
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  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_boyfriend-bought-engagement-ring-but-never-received?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:636620e0-1a33-4dba-a645-346c5106737dPost:7f116f6c-4ad1-4edb-943a-6e0f19b5b8e4">Re: Boyfriend bought an engagement ring but I never received it...</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Boyfriend bought an engagement ring but I never received it... : Is he your boyfriend or your fiance? In Response to Destination wedding-island : In Response to Choosing a destination for the wedding..... : P.S. Maybe he returned the ring when he found out that you were planning a wedding back in August. 
    Posted by TheMutleys[/QUOTE]

    <div>Love this.</div>
  • jemmini6jemmini6 member
    5000 Comments 25 Love Its Second Anniversary Name Dropper
    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_boyfriend-bought-engagement-ring-but-never-received?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:636620e0-1a33-4dba-a645-346c5106737dPost:7f116f6c-4ad1-4edb-943a-6e0f19b5b8e4">Re: Boyfriend bought an engagement ring but I never received it...</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Boyfriend bought an engagement ring but I never received it... : Is he your boyfriend or your fiance? In Response to Destination wedding-island : In Response to Choosing a destination for the wedding..... : P.S. <strong>Maybe he returned the ring when he found out that you were planning a wedding back in August.</strong> 
    Posted by TheMutleys[/QUOTE]


    LOL...figures.
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  • thejucheideathejucheidea member
    Tenth Anniversary 2500 Comments 500 Love Its First Answer
    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_boyfriend-bought-engagement-ring-but-never-received?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:636620e0-1a33-4dba-a645-346c5106737dPost:d679bb27-e435-4909-b5a5-00ed175b1389">Re: Boyfriend bought an engagement ring but I never received it...</a>:
    [QUOTE]Aww man, Mutley, I never do the recon on these. :-/
    Posted by LivLeighton[/QUOTE]
    lol I do.

  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_boyfriend-bought-engagement-ring-but-never-received?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:636620e0-1a33-4dba-a645-346c5106737dPost:d362e2c5-066f-4359-8cfa-bca4492dac3b">Re: Boyfriend bought an engagement ring but I never received it...</a>:
    [QUOTE]No that was THIS August. The ring he bought was LAST October. I just found this out since we have been talking about getting married since this August. We were looking for places and trying to budget everything, including the ring.

    So no it was not because I was planning it in August. 
    Posted by LariV[/QUOTE]

    I am aware of when it was.  Thanks.  I can read dates.

    But is he your BOYFRIEND or your FIANCE? 

    One does not plan a wedding with their boyfriend.  You get the horse and then you pull the cart.  You don't buy a cart and then search around for a horse. 

    I think you should take a step back and listen to what he is actually saying.  Communication goes a long way. 
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  • kellyt89kellyt89 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_boyfriend-bought-engagement-ring-but-never-received?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:636620e0-1a33-4dba-a645-346c5106737dPost:87f5c9fd-84ed-4027-8c8a-e5eb4d3a244c">Re: Boyfriend bought an engagement ring but I never received it...</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Boyfriend bought an engagement ring but I never received it... : I am aware of when it was.  Thanks.  I can read dates. But is he your BOYFRIEND or your FIANCE?  One does not plan a wedding with their boyfriend.  You get the horse and then you pull the cart.  You don't buy a cart and then search around for a horse.
    Posted by TheMutleys[/QUOTE]

    LOL. I'm not sure why, but this cracked me up.

    Where's HULU with her "slow your roll" graphic when you need it?
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  • thejucheideathejucheidea member
    Tenth Anniversary 2500 Comments 500 Love Its First Answer
    edited December 2011
    ell-oh-f*ckin'-ell, WE GOT A RAEG QUIT, LADIES.




  • SKP82SKP82 member
    2500 Comments Second Anniversary Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_boyfriend-bought-engagement-ring-but-never-received?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:636620e0-1a33-4dba-a645-346c5106737dPost:61d4f0a0-6c6b-4f5b-8218-6411961e01bd">.</a>:
    [QUOTE]....
    Posted by LariV[/QUOTE]

    LOL.  Typical.
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  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_boyfriend-bought-engagement-ring-but-never-received?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:636620e0-1a33-4dba-a645-346c5106737dPost:e0ae04bd-d15d-4f7e-887a-5a27b187ecb5">Re: Boyfriend bought an engagement ring but I never received it...</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Boyfriend bought an engagement ring but I never received it... : LOL. I'm not sure why, but this cracked me up. Where's HULU with her "slow your roll" graphic when you need it?
    Posted by kellyt89[/QUOTE]

    <div>
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    </div><div>Sorry I'm late to the party. Here's your slow rolls, though they're probably a bit stale now.</div>
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