So here is the situation ... recently it has come to light that a groomsman in our wedding has been having an affair with a close friend of ours. Clearly all three people are invited to the wedding considering the wedding is in 66 days and this is just coming to light now. At this point everyone is saying the wedding is far enough away where they can make whatever decisions they need to make but the groomsman is suggesting he not be in the wedding at all or only attend the ceremony and pictures because he cannot be in the same room as the other woman and neither can the wife most likely. Clearly I am taking the position that this is the day i have been dreaming about FOREVER and how dare they jeopardize our day because of their selfishness. We have not yet received a reply card from the other woman but at this point i have no reason to believe she would be declining the invite. I have no idea how to approach this because we do not want to uninvite anyone because then how do we know who else would end up not coming because of it and I mean these are all people we spend almost every weekend with. They have been there throughout our entire relationship. We have all been planning this together more or less ... i just really am at a loss and open to suggestions ... for the record i do not condone any of this and in my mind they are both guilty and need to suck it up!