Are we all megabitches?

[Deleted User] · July 2010

So, Lab got me thinking. Do we make it difficult for new posters to fit in and feel welcome? I feel like we try not to let that happen, so I'm interested to see what you guys think.

Take my poll!

alehayes · July 2010

I like you all so far

dazed2confused · July 2010

I just started posting here today (maybe yesterday). I don't feel hated and cast off...yet...

laurenclaire1386 · July 2010

Since this place came back from No Man's Crazy Land, I haven't seen anyone be mean to someone simply because that person's new. Newbies have gotten jumped on, but not just for being new.

megk8oz · July 2010

Your poll is missing the option "No, just Cew".

rhodesign · July 2010

Seems to me that when someone is new and they announce themselves, everyone is just like 'hey welcome, hang out a while and have a beer' instead of OMGDONTDOANINTROLURKFIRST!@!#@$!

BecW2be · July 2010

The last time I took your poll you told me I was too rough. I'm not falling for this again!

Wait, that was your pole. NM.

MarriedInAFever · July 2010

I definitely think this is one of the more welcoming boards, which is why I started posting here.

Anysunrise · July 2010

I like it here. I just wish I had more interesting things to contribute.

playtntsbpg30 · July 2010

I don't think the ladies here makes it difficult as some other boards.
But some are just super sensitive and should lurk a little bit to understand if they are getting their as$s handed to them or if it's being just very constructive.

number55 · July 2010

no, you/we aren't all mega bitches.

As for making it difficult for people to fit in: I definitely tried to approach this place carefully. Initially I thought I would never post, based mostly on the way certain posts were reacted to. I quickly learned why those posts got such responses. I also learned that lurking was worth it. I waited a good two months before posting and then I started with fairly tame posts, nothing too out there, no crazy "but it's MY DAY" posts, or mega long vents/novels, etc...by lurking I had figured out what pissed off the regs so I generally tried to avoid that until at least some people 'knew' me...once I felt like part of the group I felt more comfortable replying to posts that were hot topics or posting my own threads, even a vent/rant eventually.

There is my strategy, I think it worked (for me at least), SB feels like a ' safe place' now (sounds silly even writing that...).

oh, except for CEW. I hear she is indeed a bitch.

dazed2confused · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_megabitches?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:ce1a37dd-235f-4a75-8d9a-f4f9fadaa757Post:c7c29a24-ca2a-4ea2-8620-4299fffe9323">Re: Are we all megabitches?</a>:
[QUOTE]Seems to me that when someone is new and they announce themselves, everyone is just like 'hey welcome, hang out a while and have a beer' instead of OMGDONTDOANINTROLURKFIRST!@!#@$!
Posted by rhodesign[/QUOTE]

<div>Let me take this as my chance to introduce myself. My name is Kristen and i'm an alcoholic...or wait i mean I'm Kristen and i'm a bride :-D</div>

goheels05 · July 2010

I love that SB has become one of the more welcoming boards, and I love how mad that makes old SB and other people who I have no idea why they care.

Maybe if KA sees this post she'll finally change the name.

ohwhynot · July 2010

The only rational reason I think newbs may feel unwelcome is because on certain weeks there are a lot of call-outs to individual posters (but never, ever, to me. Not bitter) and that may make people hesitant to jump in. But I think that's true on just about any board. Newbs who come in here, guns a-blazing, get rightfully spanked, but they're the only ones who don't see how they contributed to it. Labrnr comes to mind in that regard.

betrothed123 · July 2010

Yeah, you're all such bitches. Every time I sign in here I want to GBCK because of how mean you all are... or maybe I'm just thinking of Cew

raynes · July 2010

Yup, megabitches. All of you (us?) But in the nicest way possible.

I started posting here because all the fun interesting people from GIS decided to post here instead of there and left me with all the crazies.

jasmineh7777 · July 2010

-Our son just called me a bitch.
-You're not a bitch. You're bitchin' but you're not a bitch.

number55 · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_megabitches?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:ce1a37dd-235f-4a75-8d9a-f4f9fadaa757Post:0d8e10f9-781c-465c-964d-a44c17f2289f">Re: Are we all megabitches?</a>:
[QUOTE]Yup, megabitches. All of you (us?) But in the nicest way possible. I started posting here because all the fun interesting people from GIS decided to post here instead of there and left me with all the crazies.
Posted by raynes[/QUOTE]

<div>ha ha ha</div><div>
</div><div>where is Nebb right now? Where are you Nebb?</div>

BecW2be · July 2010

I don't think you should let the ramblings of one loon give you pause to think, Cew.

FutureMrsFraser · July 2010

I lurked here awhile and have really just been posting for a few days, but I don't feel unwelcome at all.

raynes · July 2010

number, she's "busy" doing "work". Psssh.

kd.joseph · July 2010

I cant see your poll at work. But as a rule I think everyone here is welcoming, unless you turn into a D!ick i.e. ask stupid questions, and are generally an idiot.

But that Cew yeah I hear she's quite the .....I cant do it she said she loved me. Cew you had me at "pooh!"

prideeinpynk · July 2010

I feel like this is a very welcoming board, especially compared to what it used to be. Sometimes I feel a little 'ignored' or 'out of the loop' but that's just because I don't contribute a whole lot.

MarriedInAFever · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_megabitches?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:ce1a37dd-235f-4a75-8d9a-f4f9fadaa757Post:0d8e10f9-781c-465c-964d-a44c17f2289f">Re: Are we all megabitches?</a>:
[QUOTE]Yup, megabitches. All of you (us?) But in the nicest way possible. I started posting here because all the fun interesting people from GIS decided to post here instead of there and left me with all the crazies.
Posted by raynes[/QUOTE]

Yeaaah. Sorry about that.

carethb · July 2010

I felt welcome almost immediately, but that could be because I lurked for a long time, and I think I got the swing of the personalities around here before I decided to start posting.

I think that the people who don't feel welcome or like they don't fit in are the ones that come in guns blazing, or with absolutely ludicrous rants. From what I've seen everyone offers up straight advice and the people that can't handle it are the ones that come looking to validate and perpetuate their douchebaggery.

dazed2confused · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_megabitches?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:ce1a37dd-235f-4a75-8d9a-f4f9fadaa757Post:40a2b0c1-f2dc-4920-85ab-62de96bf28d8">Re: Are we all megabitches?</a>:
[QUOTE]I feel like this is a very welcoming board, especially compared to what it used to be. Sometimes I feel a little 'ignored' or 'out of the loop' but that's just because I don't contribute a whole lot.
Posted by prideeinpynk[/QUOTE]

<div>I won't ignore you </div>

BecW2be · July 2010

HI Fraser!!!!! *waving wildly*

goheels05 · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_megabitches?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:ce1a37dd-235f-4a75-8d9a-f4f9fadaa757Post:3257f5a0-bbdb-4920-a54d-7f6a88bb0b49">Re: Are we all megabitches?</a>:
[QUOTE]The only rational reason I think newbs may feel unwelcome is because on certain weeks there are a lot of call-outs to individual posters (but never, ever, to me. Not bitter) and that may make people hesitant to jump in. But I think that's true on just about any board. Newbs who come in here, guns a-blazing, get rightfully spanked, but they're the only ones who don't see how they contributed to it. Labrnr comes to mind in that regard.
Posted by ohwhynot[/QUOTE]

True. And I'll also say that if you are new and immediately post with an unpopular opinion, it's not going to be as well received as if a reg said it. I liken it to going to a dinner party where you don't know everyone or a job interview lunch. You smile and play nice and you bite your tongue if necessary because you don't know these people and don't want to get off on the wrong foot with them. But with your close friends or people you've worked with for a long time, you know where they stand with you and you feel more comfortable getting into a good debate about something you disagree on.

megk8oz · July 2010

Back when this was a Dead Zone, I hung out here, kind of just waiting for a group of regs to form, because I hated the beebee chaos that was forming and I was hoping something would change. When I first saw all the "E converts", though, I got scared and backed the f*ck off because I'd already been rejected by E, I really didn't need to feel like being rejected in by E 2.0

But after a couple of weeks of lurking and seeing how well it was going for everybody else that didn't work out on E, I decided to try my hand. I'm happy, for the most part, I like everybody here, and I feel like I fit in well enough.

direy25 · July 2010

Like play said, people need to lurk more. Everyone is just brutally honest and people can be too sensitive. I don't post much, but I understand the vibe of the board and I think you ladies are great.

[Deleted User] · July 2010

I'm a megabitch in real life, ask anyone who knows me.

I've never seen anyone get attacked here just because they're a newb. People get called out for being stupid, new or not.

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