My cousin and I have always been incredibly close and she's the most put-together woman I know. So it was no question that she would be on my list for my bridal party. I asked my MOH first, then my cousin, then the other 3 girls. Everyone but my cousin accepted excitedly on the spot. Everytime I tried talking to her about it she would tell me I it was too soon (my fiance have been together since 2010 and have a son together) or she still had to think about it because she doesn't approve.
After a month she told me "I feel more comfortable not being a bridesmaid. I love you and support you and I think the best way for me to do that is being there for you everyday." I responded saying by not being in my bridal party is NOT supporting me. She then said "You wedding is 1 day and your marriage is the rest of your life. It's more important to me that you know I will always be there." She asked if she could call me tomorrow but I told her not to bother. I also told her if she is not in support of this marriage or approving of my fiance then I don't believe she should be our son's godmother (which she was). She's only seen him once since he was born, anyway, and he's 10 months old. What she is saying, to me, is completely backwards.
My fiance and I have had our problems but we love each other fiercely. I'll admit she was my sounding board through a lot of our fights but I expect her to be an adult and realize it was just me venting. So because she seems to think she has a say in who I marry, she will not be standing next to me on the most important day of my life. That sucks.
Someone tell me I didn't go too far. Should I still even invite her to the wedding? I honestly don't know if I want anything to do with her anymore.