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Is it normal to feel like you hate everyone? VENT Sorta Long

I'm a lurker for the most part, but I have/need to vent.

Ok, let me clarify... I don't hate everyone. But my bridal party is ticking me off and BAD. It's not just them, but I feel like this wedding thing is more trouble than it's worth.

Initially, I only wanted to have a small wedding. Like 60 folks. My FI, bless his heart, wanted the big family gathering thing. That was the first of the many stressors. So we went from 60 to 200+ guest. He had no idea of the cost and now he is fussing and grumbling over every little bill that we have to pay.

When I wanted his input about wedding/reception ideas he said "Oh honey, I trust your ideas." When I start to talk about anything then he has something to say or he wants to change something.

These danged BM's... One is my baby sister and she's a senior in college, so she doesn't really count in this part of my vent.
One of them is in Indiana so she can't really help out as much with the planning.
One has had every jacked up situation you can think of happen to her in the last 6 months, so her focus has been on any and everything but this wedding. I don't really fault her either, but it still sucks all the same.
The other two don't particularly care for each other so when it comes to trying to plan anything they are like oil and water. I hate that both of them will come to me to talk about the planning ideas the other one presented. I really don't want to know about the shower or the bachelorette party. I just what them to tell me what time to be there.
One of those two in particular didn't get her BM dress. She didn't tell me that she was going to order her dress off the internet to save money. That held up the other BM's dresses. So I paid for the rushing shipping to get their dresses her in time. She called me today crying because she paid MORE getting the dress off of the internet than she would've if she would have just ordered it from the damn store in the first place. I swear I bit down on my lip so hard to keep from saying something I tasted blood.

I'm tired and I would give anything to elope at this point. Someone please tell me that this will get better. I just want to lock myself in a room until the 11th of November.

I really hate to whine, I just needed to vent. Thank you for (listening) reading.
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Re: Is it normal to feel like you hate everyone? VENT Sorta Long

  • edited December 2011
    Honey it's is completely alright and I totally understand how you can be frustrated.  Remember sometimes you have to vent and this is a great place to do it!  I know i'm have a long way to go in the weddign plannign but I know it will get better for you.  Think of the end goal....you will be married to the man that you love and that's all that matters!   HTH!  (((HUGS)))
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  • edited December 2011
    Ditto the PP and I think we all have those moments and yes they do get better. For me folks telling me to just let it roll off my back (back then) just ticked me off more I'm at the 17 day mark and just dont care any more lol!. I do say that at the end of the day it is about marrying the man God created just for you. And like my DOC says it really only takes 3 people to have the wedding...you, your FI and the pastor. IT WILL GET BETTER! (hugs)
  • edited December 2011
    When I wanted his input about wedding/reception ideas he said "Oh honey, I trust your ideas." When I start to talk about anything then he has something to say or he wants to change something.

    Is his name Frederick cause I couls swear this is my FI. LOL  Girl it gets better.  I use to take everything so personal but now these heffas ain't gonna get to me.  I do what I gotta do and if they wanna get on the bus great if not they will get left behind.  I would also tell the two who have issues you dont want to hear anymore about anything.  Stop them cold so they dont even go there
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  • edited December 2011
    Oh I am so sorry!!! I believe many brides go through this especially as the time gets closer!  I hope everyone gets along and can hold their peace (or is it piece) until your special day...
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  • sheshedukeshesheduke member
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    edited December 2011
    it does get better and feel free to vent away that is what we are here for. Just whooosah and make sure that you have the day of your dreams with your FI. Seriously that is all that matters
  • edited December 2011
    Thank you ladies, I felt better after reading all of your responses. It's nice to talk to someone that won't call you a bridezilla.

    LOL @ Djscat, his name is not Frederick, but Frederick may have a brother named Wil in Ohio.
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