So, we are almost approaching the year mark of planning our wedding, and I am seriously considering thinking about taking out one of my BM's. Well, this particular BM and I have known each other since kindergarten, we went to high school together and even to the same church (however during Jr. year she decided we shouldn't be friends anymore and just stopped talking to me without giving me a reason why, but being the person I am, I kept it moving). Anyway, after Katrina, and after lots of maturing we kind of reconnected again, and within the next few years I decided to ask her to be a part of my wedding (even though in the back of my mind I had deep reservations)... I figured within time maybe those feelings will go away.
Well, I have invited this BM on several occasions to have lunch with me or even just to hang out and she would give me the excuse that she has to work, or she has plans with her boyfriend, which I totally understood, but I stopped asking after constantly getting excuses and I stopped calling/texting because it seemed like I was the only one doing it. So lately, I have not heard from her unless I pick up the phone to call or text. I am not the huge "facebooker" that I once was in college, so every blue moon I get on and I see that she has pictures or statuses about going somewhere with these group of "friends" (they are pretty much known in the social scene) that she claimed she no longer wanted to associate with, and I can't get a call to say how are you doing or hows wedding planning. I am feeling like there is a one-sided friendship with no effort on her part. I am also finally realizing that those reserved feelings were true, and I should not have asked her.
Now, I don't know how to tell her nicely that I think she could just be a guest at the wedding instead of being a BM. A mutual friend of ours who is also a BM seems to think that this BM is insecure and is using this group of girls to stay "relevant." I just shake my head.
