Who decides where to do bachelorette party?

Re: Who decides where to do bachelorette party?

• JessAndTrav member

  

  July 2012

  My sister was my MOH, and she included me in all of the details, but the original plan for my B-Party was 100% hers. I was actually bummed that we didn't get to do what she originally wanted to, because it would have been a blast.
  
  I was really adamant that nothing phallic be present though. I'm not into all of that b-party stuff.
  
  Assuming your MOH is someone who knows you well, I'm sure you'll like whatever she picks for you to do.

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• LeiselEB member

  

  July 2012

  I would have been pretty bummed if my bridesmaids planned a party that was to their tastes, but not mine. It's true the bride shouldn't plan her own party, but I think she could be considered when making decisions and involved in the planning to some extent. Same with the groom. 

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• specialk84

  

  July 2012

  I think you can make your wishes known to whomever has offered to throw the party, but you have to be realistic. A ski trip may be closer, cheaper, or whatever than the Atlantic City option. The other guests may have an aversion to gambling. I don't know.

  
  

  I definitely think the host should try to plan something the guest of honor will like. If the guest of honor is a recovering alcoholic, don't plan a trip to a winery. KWIM? Or if the groom hates skiing, don't do that.

  
  

  Who are you in all of this? Bride? MOH? BM?

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• RebeccaB88 member

  

  July 2012

  I am with the others, those who are throwing the party essentially make the plans, but it should be with the tastes and preferences of the guest of honor in mind.  Personally, I hate surprises (with a passion), so I'd rather decline the party all around than risk having something sprung on me that I'm not expecting.  And I've outgrown the whole 'penis party' atmosphere - I'm not in the least bit upset to be settling down with the same one for the rest of my life, and I'm rather looking forward to it.
  
  Ultimately, I think those you choose to be in your wedding party should:
  A. Know you well enough to have a good idea of your general personality and likes/dislikes.
  B. Care about you enough to want to give you the kind of party you'll love and cherish.

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• leia1979 member

  

  July 2012

  I don't know anyone who's b-party was a surprise. My BMs and I bounced ideas back and forth until we came up with the basic plan (the beach). I gave MOH a guest list, and she took care of the rest. They also knew that I would not appreciate penis paraphernalia and respected that.

  
  
  
  I haz a planning bio

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• twinmummy2010

  

  July 2012

  I cant cope with not knowing!! ive told my MOH etc the type of night i want and ive given a few venues to pick form....now im gonna have to against all that is natural to me and let her pick and sort the rest...i will give her a guest list, buts thats it! oh gosh i hate surprises!

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• shanding4787

  

  July 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_who-decides-where-to-do-bachelorette-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:6132588e-6b3f-443a-bb5f-0924c39da246Post:a614b723-87d0-4629-90da-88bf8be4a268">Re: Who decides where to do bachelorette party?</a>:
  [QUOTE]I would have been pretty bummed if my bridesmaids planned a party that was to their tastes, but not mine. It's true the bride shouldn't plan her own party, but I think she could be considered when making decisions and involved in the planning to some extent. Same with the groom. 
  Posted by LeiselEB[/QUOTE]
  
  This.

  

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• jillyan06 member

  

  July 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_who-decides-where-to-do-bachelorette-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:6132588e-6b3f-443a-bb5f-0924c39da246Post:afe1d0a4-d7eb-4f94-b91f-17e725cd66e9">Re: Who decides where to do bachelorette party?</a>:
  [QUOTE]I think you can make your wishes known to whomever has offered to throw the party, but you have to be realistic. A ski trip may be closer, cheaper, or whatever than the Atlantic City option. The other guests may have an aversion to gambling. I don't know. I definitely think the host should try to plan something the guest of honor will like. If the guest of honor is a recovering alcoholic, don't plan a trip to a winery. KWIM? Or if the groom hates skiing, don't do that. Who are you in all of this? Bride? MOH? BM?
  Posted by specialk84[/QUOTE]
  
  <div>I'm the bride. My older brother and sister-in-law are the Best Man and MOH. We were very surprised when they suggested a joint trip to New Orleans, b/c that's THEIR favorite place to go. Neither one of us has a desire to do that. It seems like because they are a married couple and so close to us, that they are trying to take over our a lot of the planning (which it's nice to have the help, but this is too much, there is no room for my opinion)</div>

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