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• GracieLou Freebush member

  

  September 2010 edited December 2011

  I see nothing wrong with getting married at the courhouse (for the right reasons) and then having a vow renewal in April.  Lots of girls over on the Military Nesties board have done this.
  
  Just don't hide that you're legally married from your family/friends/church and don't call the vow renewal in April a wedding and you're good to go! 
  
  Congrats on your upcoming nuptuals!
  

  I don't want to be on MSNBC, yo.

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• iluvmytxrgr member

  

  September 2010 edited December 2011

  I agree.  Be honest with everyone.  Let your pastor know you are getting married in the courthouse and having a VR.  It won't make anything less special. 

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• mysticl member

  

  September 2010 edited December 2011

  The minister shouldn't have an issue as long as you have a valid explanation as to why you didn't wait to have the religious ceremony.  There is no need for a license signing since you won't have a lincense at your religious ceremony.  The license would be issued and signed for the courthouse wedding.  No need for a second one and I doubt that any court clerk would issue one when they learned you were already married. 
  
  And ditto what other's said, don't lie.  I know someone who did lie about it and her family was furious with her when they found out about it. 
  

  

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• shan87

  

  September 2010 edited December 2011

  Please please please don't call your ceremony a fake ceremony. Depending upon your religion it is very important!
  
  We are doing a Civil Ceremony in Dec. With a Vow Renewal/Church Ceremony/Recieving of the Sarcament Ceremony in May of next year. We are Catholic and I had some of your same concerns. I have heard of Priests being very offended. We contacted our Priest and he was fine with it as long as we understand that according to OUR FAITH pur marriage was not official in the eyes of the CHURCH until we recieved the sacrament of Marriage in a Church Ceremony. Also he was okay with it as long as we didn't live together before hand.  
  
  As for our Church/Religious Ceremony it will be performed the exact same way as if we didn't do the Civil Ceremony. The only difference is that the Marriage License is already signed by the Judge and Witnesses, so there is no license to sign at the end.  
  
  HTH - In the End I would contact your Pastor and see what he thinks. Mine was very understanding with our situation- (FI being in the Military and we wanted to get a head start on paper work so I could move right after the wedding. )
  
  Depending on your faith your Pastor/Priest may have similar/disimilar requirements or beliefs.

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• forrma7 member

  

  September 2010 edited December 2011

  hi there!

  be careful with this, because people tend to receive a lot of heat about this question.

  your real ceremony would be the courthouse because you are becoming legally married.

  but i do understand what you're trying to get at.

  if you're going to do a 2nd ceremony, i would definitely be honest with people. it's too much stress and trouble to try to fake everyone out. it will save yourself a ton of grief if you're just upfront.

  
  

  is there a reason why you can't just wait until april to get married?

  

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