re: taxes
when you have your kitten, if you will be hiring childcare, you should be able to take pre-tax dollars to help pay for daycare.
when you do your benefits planning through work, they will likely give you the option of a dependant care spending account. you can have money dedcuted from each paycheck , and depending on how it is managed, the provider is paid directly, or you are reimbursed.
You can claim up to $5K/year per child/dependant.