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should i walk myself down the aisle?

sarahniccolesarahniccole member
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Ive been thinking a lot about who shuold walk me down the aisle and its been pretty difficult. I have my dad and my stepdad to choose from. Im really not super close with my real dad but at the same time I really dont wanna hurt his feelings by having my stepdad do it. The other thing to consider is this is my second marriage. It almost seems silly to me to be "given away" by either father seeing as how Ive been on my own for a while and been living with my fiancee for like 3 years now lol. At my first wedding, I was able to have my brother walk me down and that was a great compromise, but ive asked him to play the music for my outdoor ceremony this time so thats not really an option this time around. Ive thought about walking myself down the aisle because that seems to make the most sense. Im not being given away by anyone. Ive chosen who I want to be with and im choosing to give myself to him. The only problem is, im probably the most shy, nervous person ever and I think ill be a complete ball of nerves with all eyes on me walking all alone. I see myself tripping and falling with no one to  catch me. haha! I really dont know what I should do!
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  • aleighk1aleighk1
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    You could either ask both your dad and stepdad to walk you down or walk by yourself.
    My father passed away and I feel like that should've been his thing so I am walking down by myself. 
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  • kellya01kellya01
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    edited October 2010
    I think it's perfectly fine to walk yourself down the isle if this is your 2nd marriage.  It makes sense to have a father-type escort if you're going from 'daddy's girl' to a wife, but not so much if you've been married before.  One thing I've seen done is a close sibling or child walking you down the isle as if your kids support you in this new endeavor (sorry, didn't see if you have kids or not... just an idea).  
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  • lalap69lalap69 member
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    I think walking yourself down the aisle is a great idea, especially as this is your second wedding and it will avoid the issue of choosing.
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  • sarahniccolesarahniccole member
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    yea thats probably what I will end up doing.I just hope Im brave enough lol. I dont have any children to walk me down and if i did they would be too little anyway lol Im only 26 :). But I think its decided then. Ill be walking by myself. just hope i dont fall flat on my face! haha
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  • kimp67kimp67 member
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    I'm walking myself down as well.  I'm a little nervous about it for the reasons you said, plus (if it's nice out)our wedding will be outside so I have steps to walk down & then a really long walk  LOL
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  • krimson19krimson19
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    i walked down the aisle by myself.  it was great.  both my father and stepfather have passed away.  they walked down the aisle my first wedding.    i had my brother walk my mother down the aisle this time.  i truly felt very special doing it.  everyone was clapping, smiling and snapping pictures :) 
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  • CutieCarusoCutieCaruso member
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    I plan on walking myself down the aisle as well. It doesn't matter if it is your first or your second marriage, I think you hit it right on the head that no one needs to "give you away" Think about yourself as an independent woman and no one owns you and no one can give you away! Girl, walk down that aisle tall and proud to be giving giving youreself away!
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  • JustKateJustKate member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_should-walk-myself-down-aisle?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:10Discussion:b8396185-59f0-4cb1-9a48-5540fdb49137Post:2375d1e3-9bd6-48eb-9ca3-8d1f13318475">Re: should i walk myself down the aisle?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I plan on walking myself down the aisle as well. It doesn't matter if it is your first or your second marriage, I think you hit it right on the head that no one needs to "give you away" Think about yourself as an independent woman and no one owns you and no one can give you away! Girl, walk down that aisle tall and proud to be giving giving youreself away!
    Posted by CutieCaruso[/QUOTE]

    Yep this.  

    If you would feel more comfortable with someone walking with you, maybe you could have your mom walk with you to keep you from choosing between your dads.  I'm not traditional so I would think of something creative and personal to have the officiant say as your mom hands you over. 
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