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Inviting Kids Question

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I just recently got engaged. The wedding isn't going to be until March of 2012, but I started making a rough estimate of people I would like to be on the guest list. We are trying to keep it small, about 100 people. My fiancé has 3 nieces that I would love to have there. However, just because we want them there, does that mean I have to invite everyone's kids? Some of them I would really prefer not be there because of behavior issues. And several members of his family have 3 or more kids. Also, if everyone's kids are going to be there, it really takes a big chunk out of my guest list. What is the right thing to do in this case?

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  • DanielleZZDanielleZZ member
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    IMO when you make cuts you have to across a "line" (ex. all 2nd cousins).  If he only has 3 nieces and the other kids are cousin's kids or friend's kids (not sibling's kids) than it is fine to invite them and not all kids. 
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  • Summer2011BrideSummer2011Bride member
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    I would set some guidelines or people's feelings will get hurt/they will be angry. I think it's acceptable to say "only kids of family are invited." But then you'd have to invite ALL family's children. Or you could just say "no kids except for the WP": and have the nieces as flower girls. I think if you pick and choose based on "annoyingness" (even though you wouldn't tell them that) some people will be upset when they see other kids and theirs weren't invited.


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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    If they are the only nieces on either side, you can get away with it because they are the only nieces. They are a category all on their own. If you invite one cousin with her children though and another cousin without her children, then you will have a conflict.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_inviting-kids-question-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:6c67857c-5f4d-4ce0-b796-e8935a7e26b8Post:c79d34c8-75ea-4524-9ba9-7c8d3354224a">Re: Inviting Kids Question</a>:
    [QUOTE]If they are the only nieces on either side, you can get away with it because they are the only nieces. They are a category all on their own. If you invite one cousin with her children though and another cousin without her children, then you will have a conflict.
    Posted by schlagetermari[/QUOTE]

    This!!
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