The Mother/Son and Father/Daughter dances actually have meaning, whereas the Wedding Party dance just seems like a stupid waste of time to me. I mean, if you have all married couples, or at least all good friends, in the wedding party, then it makes sense to have them dance together. But making people who are usually strangers just dance with each other (especially when they have their own significant others in the room) just doesn't have a point. If you want a group of people to help you start off the dancing, or to take some of the focus off you and your fiance, I don't see a problem with inviting your bridal party and their dates up to finish the song with you. (We asked our DJ to invite all the couples in attendance to finish out our first dance with us, since we picked a pretty long song and we didn't want to be up there alone for five minutes.)I don't think anyone here would argue that a Father/Daughter or Mother/Son dance is a waste like a WP Dance is.
SO i just spent the last half hour sharing my ideas born of this thread with my FI.. i couldn't believe he was head strong about having even numbers.. more so than i was! HOWEVER i shared what was shared with me and he relaxed quite a bit..we even realised how nice it might be for him to be one shirt (he was one best man and i have 2 people of honor-now the best man can escort my sisters down the isle!)thank god he is ok with no WP dance.. he wants to do a wish dance instead of no dollar dance and i bowed to him on that one.. i just don't want ppl pulling out their wallets at the reception. he balked when i shared about my feelings on the bouqet (he's veru traditonal) so i told him how it mad eme feel to stand up there..and i suggested we research other cultures and traditions to find one that suits us (we are very open minded to trying new things..its one of the things we love about eachother).I have seen the anniversary dance..it's always very nice. Unfortunately i don't think it will work for our families. It might only serve to highlight divorces etc. His father is deceased and his mother is on her third marriage.. my folks are seperated for 10 yearsdivorce STILL pending so my father is unable to marry his long term partner..and both of all of our grandfather's have passed away. SO basically, there won't be a cute old couple wioth 50+ years under their belt for everyone to moon over. It is a REALLY nice idea though..just not for us. However this thread opened a lot of disucssion for us and opned our view of our wedding..i feel a great sense of relief... being truly open to do what we want instead of what "tradition" calls for.