Okay, I know it sounds crazy... but hear me out!
a few precursors: We are both in college, my mom is excited and paying.
My fiancee and I have been active members at our church our entire lives, and we have a LOT of friends and friends' moms who love us a LOT! We know there are many women and friends who would do anything for us in life, and they've proven it with a record of helping us out of life's jams.
Now, Austin and I REALLY want a very communal, community-focused wedding! It is very important to us that we allow people to feel invested, involved, and important. We are trying to invite lots of those friends and families I mentioned, and so we figured to ask them if they would like to be involved, we would love to let them! If they could make food or help with setup or anything, we would love their help! If they make food, we would put a cute placard in front of the dish at the reception with their name on it. I think it sounds amazing, my fiancee has it as an 8 out of 10 in importance, and all of my friends who haven't suggested it themselves, have liked the idea!
Pros: It saves us money, allowing us to invite more people. It fits in my values of valuing people over money while spending wisely, and it allows it all to be communal!
problem: My mom HATES the idea, because she thinks people will be "burdened" and it will "show poorly on her".
I need to hear what you guys think!
remember: we're in college, and have tons of moms and friends who have offered help.