I'm so disappointed with my MOH. I don't really have high expectations of the bridal party. I just want them to be there, to care, and to help out a little on the day of. Three months before the wedding she told me that she didn't know if she could come. I was so hurt. She had already committed, 9 months prior to the wedding, to be the MOH! Her reasoning was finances. Now keep in mind that I bought her dress, shoes, and first night of hotel room. So her expenses are actually LESS than all the other guests...and I can understand her not coming due to finances...but she should have told me that prior to committing to be there (her financial situation didn't change in anyway between when she committed and when she was considering dropping out). So that was pretty heartbreaking to me. I volunteered to pay for her plane ticket...but then she told me not to buy it because she wasn't sure if she could get out of class. I volunteered to buy it for the day before the wedding so that she wouldn't miss any class, but she didn't want me to do that because she said she wanted to be here for as much of it as possible. I finally convinced her to let me buy her ticket after about a month of her stalling. Now she won't RSVP. I know that she's coming, but it's really symbolic to me of how little she cares. She's basically getting a free vacation out of the deal and she won't even bother to do the one thing I've asked her (and every other guest) to do - RSVP.
I've emailed her multiple times about it. I feel like soon I'm going to need to tell her how badly her apathy is hurting me...which I know will really hurt her, because I know that she's not trying to hurt me. She's really not a selfish or uncaring person. She's just stressed out right now. But she's my MOH! I just don't feel like she cares...about the wedding or even about me.
Just sad.
