I have two girls who I love, one my cousin and one my really good friend. Both have accepted the offer to be BM's. When i first asked them back in July (I do realize this was a long time in advance) i told them the total cost of the dress and they said that was no problem. I also told them after picking the dress when David's Bridal recommended they be ordered and they said no later than October because they take awhile to come in. Itis now Nov 29 and they still have not ordered their dresses. I talked to them individually asking them if i could help them pay for their dresses and they both declined my offer. I don't know if finances are an issue. I guess what I'm trying to say is, Is there a way of offering them an out if they no longer want to be in the wedding? I would like them to still be in it but after attempts at communication I am beginning to get worried. Or do I say nothing and just see if they show up? Thank you for your helpand advice.