All - I'm hoping for some advice on how to handle a tricky situation with my parents and my fiance's parents. We've been engaged for several months and are planning a wedding for next spring. Fortunately, my parents are able to foot the cost of the wedding and are more than prepared to do so, but even still, my fiance's parents have not made any attempts to contact my parents and even offer their assistance, either financially or non-financially. The kicker is that his parents know we are well into the planning process, as they have sent me their *extensive* guest list (they have twice as many people as the rest of us) and have offered their unsolicited feedback on how we should handle certain elements. My parents are now getting very frustrated that his parents haven't offered to help in any way, and I've asked my fiance to bring it up with his parents, but of course, he's very uncomfortable with it.
My question is - is it proper etiquette for the groom's parents to offer to help, or are my parents and I getting ourselves worked up over nothing? And if it is proper etiquette, how do I get the message to them that they need to just make that one courtesy call to my parents to save everyone a lot of frustration down the road?? Please help!