This is rather complicated. My cousin (who is around thirty years older than me) got married when she was young, had two kids (my second cousins, who are both older than me), and then got divorced. So far, pretty normal, right? Except for the last 15 years or so, she and her ex have lived together. She still goes by his last name, but they are not re-married. How do I address their envelope? My guess is this:
Mr. John Smith and Ms. Jane Smith
Does that look right? FYI, my wedding is uber-formal and so are my invites.
Sidenote: I have been trying for nearly a year to post on various message boards. For some reason, up until today, it has never worked, it always spit me back to my bio page. To the staff person at the The Knot who fixed this....thanks!