Need to vent

nhoncell · August 2010

I am so just not really irritated but just ugh! at the moment and don't know how to feel. I am getting married in April and it was always my dream to have a blck and white wedding. Well do to our location it is mostly outdoors and more of a southern theme than uptown. So I change my colors to mainly ivory and then the bidesmaid dresses to a golden khaki color. Well one of my maids doesn't realy like it. Then my FI ( he does try to help but makes it worse sometimes) says "Well its just a hard color to go with" I was like Hellooooo the GM's are wearing khaki's your wearing a khaki suit and I just don't like alot of color hence why black and white were my original colors! I want a soft look. Is it wrong to not want a bunch of color or colors? I want my maids to like what they wear but I want it to look the way I invision it? Am I being crazy? I just feel confused about what I want now? I would never want them to wear something they hate but I love the dress I picked! What to do? Ladies help!

kayboo1218 · August 2010

Why exactly can't you still go with black and white? Even outside I think it is still possible to go with the original idea. What are you working with that makes black and white impossible to do?

Mioh1 · August 2010

First of all you asked your girls if they wanted to be bridesmaids and they said yes. It's not like you're making this girl pay 1,000's to be in your wedding. You can't please every single person and you're trying to do that which is why you're driving yourself crazy. It's just a color and she just needs to wear it for a couple of hours. Just explain to her that those are your colors and you can't change everything just because she doesn't like it.

aerinpegadrak · August 2010

Well, yeah, khaki is a hard color to wear. I also don't understand why changing your venue meant you had to change your color scheme. The nice thing about black and white is it works anywhere.

mkrupar · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_need-vent-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:13b839f2-3a3c-4b58-b86d-3b2f4c6a3325Post:7a3330d2-53f9-4c89-b1e5-78af0918d690">Need to vent</a>:
[QUOTE]I am so just not really irritated but just ugh! at the moment and don't know how to feel. I am getting married in April and it was always my dream to have a blck and white wedding. Well do to our location it is mostly outdoors and more of a southern theme than uptown. So I change my colors to mainly ivory and then the bidesmaid dresses to a golden khaki color. Well one of my maids doesn't realy like it. Then my FI ( he does try to help but makes it worse sometimes) says "Well its just a hard color to go with" I was like Hellooooo the GM's are wearing khaki's your wearing a khaki suit and I just don't like alot of color hence why black and white were my original colors! I want a soft look. Is it wrong to not want a bunch of color or colors? I want my maids to like what they wear but I want it to look the way I invision it? Am I being crazy? I just feel confused about what I want now? I would never want them to wear something they hate but I love the dress I picked! What to do? Ladies help!
Posted by nhoncell[/QUOTE]

What color shirts/ties are the GM wearing? Do they have the dress you like in maybe a pale yellow or even a sage green? Those colors would compliment the Khaki, and you could find matching ties for the GM.

I was the same as you, Black & White, but ended up throwing Teal in to the mix to add some dimension. You're correct in not wanting your bridesmaids to wear something they don't like, it'll show on their faces in the photos. Hear them out, talk with your fiance, and I'm sure you can figure something out. Your wedding is in April, you have some time. Don't stress yourself out too much over this.

JenO24 · August 2010

black and white is classic and goes with anything - not sure why you "had" to change your colors if that is what you wanted to begin with

twilight.rose · August 2010

Why don't you just put the girls in black dresses? It's a rather more flattering color for most people than khaki, and it would still go with the GMs' suits. Perhaps add the goldish color to your girls' outfits in a sash or a shoe.

Also, I think that's going to be a LOT of tan/khaki at the altar.

nhoncell · August 2010

To be completely honest I was suppose to have more monetary support and that changed alot. I don't mind at all my dad threw in a small amount and the rest we are paying for ourselves. A lot of couples are having to do that and we certainly don't mind. We have a wonderful support group and plenty of hands to help since we are both from small towns. However I changed my venue, the number of guest, and decor due to cutting cost. The venue cut a bunch but then I realized I could use cotton in place of flowers for free. Thats when the color scheme changed. The guys are wearing khaki pants, light blue shirts with either blue and khaki tie or whatever my FI decides. I barely wanted them to wear blue shirts but its our wedding so I agreed. Oh and btw I am the only short pleasntly plump one my maids are all tall, slender, and gorgeous so they look great in everything. I think I answered most of the questions.

trix1223 · August 2010

You're really overthinking this. A lot. Colors are colors. They don't have to match the venue. Or the flowers. Is there ever a time when the honored guests at your wedding are expected to match the carpet. Or the window treatments? Or the centerpieces?

I don't see where there's any problem using a black and white color scheme with "cotton" centerpieces.

You're really making this way harder than it needs to be.

nhoncell · August 2010

I just don't think the girls can carry brown in the boquets and wear black dresses.

I think that would look weird especially with the guys in blue and khaki? Maybe I am overthinking but I know I am going to be comfortable and I want them to be as well.

christinelyn0131 · August 2010

Well, okay, so you changed your colors/venue/plan for your wedding. That being said, you don't want to go back to black and white so let's move on.

Here's some soft colors you might want to consider:
Silver
Blush
Ecru
Champagne

What if the girls were in a really light champagne, insead of khaki?

Like this:
http://www.davidsbridal.com/Browse_Bridal-Party-Bridesmaids-Shop-By-Color?&colorName=Champagne

I personally think everyone looks good in champagne.

I'm not too sure you're over reacting. Honestly, my MOH has to cover her shoulders, BM #1 has big boobs and a small frame so she wants something conducive to that and BM #2 has little boobs and a great bod so she wants something conducive to that. UGH. If I ever find a dress from them, angels will sing.

So, little pep talk, I would LOOOOVE to have a southern theme with cotton bouquets and khaki dresses. I love your theme. I think it will be stunning and flawless and everyone of your guests will be jealous!

Go with champagne!

nhoncell · August 2010

Christinelyn Bless you heart! Thank you for that pep talk! Mica your right too hydrageas were my original flowers and although they are native in the south the flower companies know how much we love them because they are expensive! But just a few wont be to bad. I went back and looked and the dress color and it is actually called champagne but it has textured roses on it that are not as shimmery they look like a soft khaki. Hopefully she will like it more when it is fit to her better! Thanks Ladies yall are AWESOME!

JZags · August 2010

Original Poster,
Just wanted to let you know that you're not alone. I am equally as "crazy" about the colors in my wedding because I don't like alot of colors in general for a wedding. Everyone thinks I'm crazy when I say that but oh well. I was going to go with black and white when we originally decided to hold our wedding in Pittsburgh. But when we decided to hold it at the beach I have completely blanked on a color scheme and actually told everyone I wanted my BMs in khaki (everyone of course thinks I'm nuts). I still don't know what my colors will be because I feel like there's going to be a whole hell of a lot of khaki going on with the dresses and the suits for the GMs and the sand on the beach so I'm definitely trying to pick a color.
The blue hydrangea idea is awesome and I totally agree with it. Good luck on the color issue. It's your wedding, and one day you may be in one where you don't necessarily LOVE the color, but that's what friends/family are for. I wouldn't stress too much about your BM that doesn't like it. This is your day. Although you rock for considering your BMs feelings on the dress, I don't think you should stress too much over it.

Need to vent

Re: Need to vent

Choose Another Board

Search Boards