My MOH is my 19yr old little sister who is still into wild partying. She and my cousin are planning my bachlorette party. My cousin has finally been able to talk her out of strippers for which I am very grateful. But they want to do the BP like the weekend before and get me "totally smashed" (their words) cause they think that's the whole point...neither of them have been married. Anyways this is a problem because two of my BM live 5-6 hours away and I know they will be upset if they can't go to the BP but I also know finanically and schedule wise they just can't come down two weekends in a row. I've told my MOH that I want the BP the night before (cause I like the tradition of it being your last single night) and that going out is fine but that I don't want to get trashed I just want to have a good time with my girls. But she just keeps talking about doing it her way and everytime I try to tell her that's not what I want she just sighs and says "well then I just don't know what to do cause that won't work."
How do I tell her that it's my day and I don't want to do it that way without sounding like a huge bridezilla and be able to get her to listen?