Multiple little girls in wedding - am I being elitist?

emilyinchile · November 2010

Rosie,

.

I don't really see anything wrong with making your daughter stand out, but if your FI doesn't want her to wear a different dress then find some kind of compromise. Can she have a special tiara or different flowers or walk by herself? This is such a minute detail, and it's really just about you and your future husband coming to an agreement - it shouldn't be that hard.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · November 2010

If you want her to stand out, don't have 4 flower girls.

Bubbalub · November 2010

Ah, reading everyone's responses I am finding myself nodding my head. Four little girls IS overkill. But I still think if you want to dress your daughter different then just do it, provided your fiance gives in.

I'm still curious what roles the girls have. Are you going to respond?

sarah0725 · November 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Multiple little girls in wedding - am I being elitist? : Ha. When I was trying on dresses a few months ago, I met a really chatty mother of the bride who was so appalled to hear that I didn't have flower girls or ring bearers that she actually offered to lend me her grandchildren.
Posted by Celles[/QUOTE]

That is hilarious.

ohwhynot · November 2010

Hey Celles,

My son has been a ring bearer in no fewer than 4 weddings. He has experience AND he can make his own ring case out of Legos. He's getting a little old, but he's small for his age. You really can't go wrong.

Celles · November 2010

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[QUOTE]Hey Celles, My son has been a ring bearer in no fewer than 4 weddings. He has experience AND he can make his own ring case out of Legos. He's getting a little old, but he's small for his age. You really can't go wrong.
Posted by ohwhynot[/QUOTE]

Tempting, OWN. Does he have a twin, by chance? Or a look-alike cousin? I really have my heart set on two, but they should match.

tidetravel · November 2010

The simple answer to this is just to give her a different title - "Flower girl of honor." Then she can wear a different dress and no one will mind.

WildRumpus · November 2010

Celles, that's hilarious. Our florist didn't get it when I told her we might have a flower girl-that it depended on my niece's mood that day (she's Autistic) She said (imagine this in a clutching-pearls kind of way) "Why wouldn't she want to walk down the aisle? It's so much fun! All little girls love that!"

emilyinchile · November 2010

Celles, you should have accepted - those little fingers would have been perfect at sewing a veil to replace yours! They didn't come up with child labor for nothing, ya know.

ohwhynot · November 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Multiple little girls in wedding - am I being elitist? : Tempting, OWN. Does he have a twin, by chance? Or a look-alike cousin? I really have my heart set on two, but they should match.
Posted by Celles[/QUOTE]

Well, no, but we have these cousins in the family, and I think they're available:

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sep72fendr · November 2010

Meh. 4 is a lot.

If you can't take back the others. Make her just a "leeetle" bit more stand-outish.

What about an ivory sash over top of the purple? Just enough to make her different, yet still blend in? (I'm actually surprised no one said that yet)

Beachy730 · November 2010

Here Celles, these children have offered to be your RB's and FG's:

[Deleted User] · November 2010

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[QUOTE] I am dying to know what the 4 little girls will be doing though.
Posted by Rosie109[/QUOTE]

<div>Same thing 4 BM do. Nothing.</div><div>
</div><div>I don't see anything wrong with 4 FGs if they are well behaved and you have a lot of little children in your life. </div><div>It's quite common in Europe. Your shoe Princess didn't have any adult BM Snippy right? </div>

ohwhynot · November 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Multiple little girls in wedding - am I being elitist? : Same thing 4 BM do. Nothing. I don't see anything wrong with 4 FGs if they are well behaved and you have a lot of little children in your life. It's quite common in Europe. <strong>Your shoe Princess didn't have any adult BM Snippy right?
</strong>Posted by NCV2[/QUOTE]

Huh?

sarah0725 · November 2010

Incidentally, I suggested to FI that we bring our cats back east and have them be the flower girls, and make them little dresses, and for some reason he didn't seem to like that idea.

Snippylynn · November 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Multiple little girls in wedding - am I being elitist? : Huh?
Posted by ohwhynot[/QUOTE]
Okay, thank goodness I'm not the only one who didn't understand!!

[Deleted User] · November 2010

The Swedish Princess was married over the summer, all of her attendants were children.

All of princess Diana attendants were children as well. Marcia Cross did this too.

Celles · November 2010

I think I'll pass. I appreciate the offer, OWN, but I would prefer child attendants who don't look like they're going to eat me.

dnbeach -- I can't see that picture. Red X of doom.

[Deleted User] · November 2010

Princess Victoria of Sweden

Beachy730 · November 2010

Ah sorry. They were the children of the Sister Wives. It was hard to see them anyways.

Rosie109 · November 2010

my shoe princess didn't have any adult BM Snippy right..

I am so confused.

emilyinchile · November 2010

Why is she the shoe princess?

ohwhynot · November 2010

What the hell is a shoe princess?

Also - I didn't get the impression that these 4 little girls were the only WP members.

ETA-actually, we know that there are other WP members, because OP mentioned the MOH. So whatever the shoe princess is doing doesn't really apply.

hypothesis125 · November 2010

I didn't ask the other 3 to be flowergirls - my fiance asked his sisters about their 2 daughters, and my MOH's daughter was originally (and still may) play another role other than flower girl. I don't really know of any roles that they can play other than flower girls, though. My MOH's daughter is the oldest one (4 years old) and may be able to pass out programs. Ideas or suggestions on that front would be greatly appreciated - if I could find an alternate role for the other 3, that would solve my problem completely.

Rosie109 · November 2010

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[QUOTE]Incidentally, I suggested to FI that we bring our cats back east and have them be the flower girls, and make them little dresses, and for some reason he didn't seem to like that idea.
Posted by sarah0725[/QUOTE]

<div>we are going to our venue tonight to pick out linens and stuff and I am working a list of questions to ask... just to verify a few things. I asked FI if he had any questions and he said we should ask if they have litter boxes there, then he picked up our kitten and had this shiit eating grin on his face. Oh gosh. </div>

[Deleted User] · November 2010

FMIL only had children too now that I think of it. I asked her why and she said "it was what was done." They were all family. I thought it was very odd.

pinkpinot · November 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Multiple little girls in wedding - am I being elitist? : Tempting, OWN. Does he have a twin, by chance? Or a look-alike cousin? I really have my heart set on two, but they should match.
Posted by Celles[/QUOTE]

When are you getting married, Celles? I could try to pop out a set of twinsies by then for you to use. Your welcome.

Celles · November 2010

Okay, after seeing this (while Googling inspiration for Sarah#'s FI!), everything else seems sane.

I am disqualifying myself from dispensing wedding-related advice for the rest of the day. Or until I get bored. Whichever.

[Deleted User] · November 2010

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[QUOTE]Why is she the shoe princess?
Posted by emilyinchile[/QUOTE]

<div>Snippy's H's coworker thinks her face looks like a shoe. </div>

Beachy730 · November 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Multiple little girls in wedding - am I being elitist? : Damn girl! No, it is traditional here, I'd just forgotten. Just like the BM's walking behind the bride.
Posted by Snippylynn[/QUOTE]

Haha, sorry. Just seems weird to me. I didn't know it was a tradition.

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