I didn't wanna write this on the popular boards because I really just don't want to share personal problems with those judgemental women. I was hoping maybe someone here had a similar problem and could help with some insight.
So, my FI's parents threw him a graduation party for his master's degree last month and I've been telling him he needs to write thank you cards for the gifts he received. I even wrote down who gave him what, went out and bought the cards myself, sat down and handed him the cards and when he had no clue what to write I offered him ideas on how to word it. I need to like, hold his hand because he doesn't really care if thank you cards are sent out or not and I just don't understand.
That night I tried helping him ended up turning into an argument that I'm telling him what to write (hello, he asked me?!?!) and that he will just take care of it at work the next day without me harassing him. So I sat them by his wallet and keys so he'd take them and finish them the next morning. Well, that was about 3 weeks ago and the cards are still sitting there, half finished. So.. I just brought it up again, and also brought up the fact that it was really rude how he didn't ask one of his groomsmen and they found out they were a groomsman by seeing themselves on our wedding website.
Now, he told me he had called his friend and his friend said yes.. so I went ahead and posted the link to our site for our family and friends. This was over a month ago. This whole time I'm thinking our entire bridal party knew who they were and everything was straight. But yesterday we were all at a softball tournament and his one friend was joking around how he saw his face on the site but FI had never asked him. FI played it off, and honestly I don't think his friend cared, because they're guys. But what's with him saying he did it?
I know he hates calling his friends, like, he HATES talking on the phone. But I had suggested to do it that way because every time he saw his groomsmen they were always with other friends who he didn't mean to ask, and that would have been rude.
So basically, I'm just sick of him not grasping the rules of etiquette and that it was a little embarrassing that I had made this site and included his friend and his friend had no knowledge of being a groomsman. Like what if he were to say no? I just don't get how all this time it hasn't even crossed his mind like, oh crap, I should ask so-and-so soon. Especially since he's seen him numerous times since then!
Does anyone else have a FI that doesn't understand general manners or rules of etiquette and is just... downright lazy and ignorant when it comes to these situations?? I don't know how to handle it without pissing him off. It's funny because he is a businessman, his bosses all love him, he knows how to BS with people, have a strong handshake, earn people's respect.. all that. But when it comes to the most obvious things he's clueless. I'm so frustrated!
Anyone who's read this far.... THANK YOU.