okay i feel like i have whiplash now. A friend of mine was asked to be a bm, gladly said yes, and then asked to step down after having a child (understandable) and saying that being a bm for my wedding would be too much for her at this point. We didn't really speak to each other until two days ago, When we went out to see a football game. ( we decided to give each other some space) While we were talking she starts asking about getting the bm's numbers to get with them to throw me a shower,etc,etc.
I'm really confused at this point because one minute she doesn't want anything to do with my wedding, and the next she's trying to be a moh. I feel uncomfortable about her doing things like calling my bm's and planning parties for me when she tells me she cant handle standing at the altar with me for thirty minutes.
Just fyi though, i am grateful for ANY parties thrown in my and fi honor, i just feel like she's asking to be a bm but doesn't want to buy a dress and walk down the aisle (which is all i have asked my bm's to do) but is ok with planning showers and parties.. How do i explain my feelings without sounding rude and ungrateful?